Don't do it. Don't like somebody that you don't think you could see yourself with in person. If you are hesitant, if you could be seen in public with this individual, do not hit the like button. Hit the like button on people you could see yourself meeting. You can introduce to friends, introduce to anyone. So I went through a spell where I was trying to get a match
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 3:31
For me personally, I guess I'm doing all right because I always have dates that want to take me out, nice places that want me to meet their families and everything like that. And I guess that must be a good thing, because if you don't want to take a person out in public, you definitely don't want to introduce them to your family. But I feel like I'm not that type of person
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:42
So no, I wasn't implying that this is you. I know you're like this, too. I didn't mean it like that. But as I chronicle my experiences being an online dater for almost 20 years, I would say I have had better results when I have intentionally hit that like button. So, yes, I'm not just looking at how they look. It's not that you're getting supermodels and s***. Nothing like that
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 4:50
I wonder why. I wonder if there's maybe some things in your profile that are some things that you enjoy that maybe they enjoy the same things or something like that, or maybe they're just very confident. I'm not sure I can't really say what that could be. And then when you said 20 years, wow, I didn't even know dating online dating was around for 20 years. That's crazy because everybody still talks about it like it's a plaque
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 1:32
It's. Now, what I did forget to ask you, Fry Oreo, is how do people know? Because I hear people say that out of the league thing, or I've even went out with people, women, and they'd be like, Well, I know he's not your type. And I'm like, what does that mean? Why are you saying it like that? I'm not superficial
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:25
Swell, it's about conversation, it's not about looks. But it is about looks for me with online dating. I'm sorry? I'm not trying to be buddies with people. Have a bunch of friends from online dating. That's not why I'm there for. I hold myself to a certain standard, and it's worked for me, but it may not work for others. So, yeah, that's how I know
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 4:34
But maybe he will look over that because he's looking for more quality, or they may be okay with it. I watch Catfish and see, people are comfortable with being with a person they never seen. And just that little bit of attention is enough for them and it satisfies them. But I agree with you. You should go after what you are. I don't know what you look like, but I'm assuming you're a very attractive man
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 3:43
Yeah, yeah, you know, I'm the middle aged, older white women. They're gonna continue to like me regardless. At least that's what he's looking like with my online dating. But fortunately, plenty more types like me than just that type. But that's, like, unsolicited. So I'm getting a like from them, and I'm refusing the like by hitting the X, but that's not always the case
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 0:33
So now you got me curious. So when you pick that so definitely send it through the DM. I like how you talk. I think it's refreshing at the bottom of the claim. I think that and then if we a lot of people tend to lie a lot. They're not honest because it hurts people's feelings. But, I mean, you know, we have to be honest these days. We have to be honest with ourselves, and we have to be honest with other people
Ms.Hollie D.
@over40podcast · 4:30
You want to make sure that you're connecting with someone that you can go out and you're not embarrassed because I'm not trying to go out with noble goals. So I believe as you get older, I can count a handful of times that I did online dating
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:39
You have some people who don't even want to message you back and forth. They want to see you in person. And to some degree I can understand that. But I feel like I would waste my time if I didn't get to know you first in the messages and I got to know you instead in person. Because that's the whole point of online dating. It's kind of like shortcut
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Ms.Hollie D.
@over40podcast · 5:00
You. So that chick is the epitome of being self conscious. And here's why. You already know when you're doing online dating, it is a visual thing. 75% is a visual. If you can get past that, then you can get to know that person. Like you said, once you transition over to direct messaging. But it's sort of like I always wondered when catfishing was a thing. Catfishing, it seems like it's still a thing when people would do that
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:59
When it comes to showing you, though, it why is it only from the neck up? If it looks don't matter, show everything, then so obviously it does matter. It is certain instances where you're uncomfortable, and that's fine. But again, until you can have it fully, you're not going to get anything fully out of online dating. That's just my experience, though