Small talk is that awkward conversation that you have right before you get to the meat and potatoes of the conversation. Small talk is the questions that my kids ask me before they get to the real reason why they're talking, which is to ask me for money for some event. Small talk is the awkward conversation that you have with a stranger at a bus stop, someone that you don't really know. Small talk is the opposite of deep, meaningful conversation, and I can't stand it
When someone does that, when I look at the clock and I see 37 icons have gone by, I'm like, Why did you just waste my time? I would prefer to dive right into it. And so for the most part, I do dive right into it. I will, for theatrical purposes, I suppose, occasionally started off with some dramatic or silly or stupid one liner to sort of just open the door, so to speak
Tanzy Chandler
@Find_My_Voice · 2:44
Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. And I'm going to answer your question. But before I answer your question, I'm going to tell you what conclusion I came to after I left. That swell. I decided that the next time I was going to do a swell, I was going to omit the introduction altogether. And your response helped give me the reasons why. I'm going to. The first reason is I don't like it
Because sometimes people don't listen to all of the back and forth that happens afterwards. And if they don't realize there's a second part, they might just stop after the first part. But anyway, that's how you can extend it if you'd like
That was one of the I think maybe it was just subconsciously or maybe something aside my heart when I was praying to find a wife that God heard, my heart, even though I wasn't saying it verbally in the prayer that he gave me a woman who's a very deep thinker, just like me, like me and her. It's like a yin and yang when it comes to having deep intellectual conversations
Tanzy Chandler
@Find_My_Voice · 0:23
Thank you so much for your honest response. I appreciate that. I think that navigating deep conversation is a skill that some people have naturally, and some people can be taught if they're willing to learn it. So hopefully you encounter more people who have that skill in your life. Thanks again for sharing
Marco Lobo
@EnLaBocaDelLobo · 3:43
And then you say, okay, I'm going to come back and I'm going to give you another speech. Walk out, come back, and then that second speech, do it without an introduction, no introduction. Just walk up and say hello and then immediately start reading another headline to another story or whatever it is, maybe a paragraph. And then end it there at the end. Ask them, hey, which one did you like best?
Tanzy Chandler
@Find_My_Voice · 2:40
The critic in my head, she's tough, and your words are encouraging, and they help me to tell her to take a back seat so that I can see some of the gifts and some of my strengths, some of the things that I bring to the table. So I appreciate that very much. I will continue to practice, find my voice, develop my craft, and I would like for this to become not my bread and butter