Larry Reed
@FatherHood · 4:42
Keep your hands on your own remote
Even our loved one, the one that we are in this relationship with, they should not hold that much power over you to where they cause you to act out or to say things that you are going to possibly regret later on. Myself, it's a process. It's a work. I call it being under construction. God ain't done with me yet
I was so down on myself for being such a weak person that I was in the mental institution. But the thing of it is, one day we got into it and the doctor had given me enough courage and told me something to do that I hadn't thought about, which was stupid. And I got in the car after we had some kind of a stupid argument. We didn't argue. He just said what he said, and I had to deal with it
Now, I know that you were a man and I don't know exactly what you have been going through, but as a woman who put up with it for 42 years, I can tell you plenty of things that can happen where you could change it. I let my son be pestered and picked on in stupid ways, just like I was for a long time, until I finally said I just ignored him when he was picking on me. And he said, you're not going to get mad
I didn't want people to feel sorry for me. I just wanted help. I wanted help, and I had to go to the psychiatrist to get it. So they did help me. And I finally got loose through the help of my total. Turned out to be the best friend I ever had. And she was in theater. She worked at the ECU College out here and she got involved with me through a play and we became best friends and she would come and get me
That don't happen with a man. If a man doesn't want to, if people make fun of you saying, well, he can be made to, well, that's true, but who wants to make a man do that? They have to really be hard up, but a woman can, whether she wants to or not. And I had to leave the house
So if you can talk about getting up and leaving a place I had kids at home. I didn't. But when my kids got gone, I began to, and going up and getting into theater and stuff. But as a man, you have the power to make a home hell or heaven, or at least your slice of it. I've never been in love. I can honestly say I've never been in love
They brag too much about how long, how big, how strong, how long they can go on and all this stuff that makes them a man, but it doesn't. Any male person can get an erection and if they can't, they go out and get something that's going to make it, and then they have it and they don't know what to do with it. Well, go find somebody and poke it in them
Larry Reed
@FatherHood · 1:03
You. I am so proud of your strength. I listened to everything you had to say, and first thing came to me is, sometimes it takes more strength and power to be silent and to really come to grips with what it is that you need to do for yourself. So I don't see weakness in what you first went through with being quieting of your voice. That shows a great deal of strength and restraint
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Omaylen Contreras
@omaylen · 2:20
It is hard understanding that we have no control at all on what people said to us and think about us and do to us. We have no control on that because that's their actions, their thoughts, their beliefs and their own battles. But we definitely have the control of what am I doing with this, how am I taking this, what I am learning from this and what else I can do with this to keep myself away from these actions and away from this situation that makes me feel uncomfortable