Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 5:00
Does attractiveness determine if you will be alone?
But there is a typical guideline that is followed in order to deem if a person is attractive or not. Recently, since I've been just loving on myself more, the amount of compliments and the type of compliments that I receive from people have increased, and they're different. I feel like I've always kind of struggled with my appearance after puberty
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 4:10
Now, the reason why I brought this up is because like I said recently, as I lean into my natural beauty and I'm just more in tune with myself, I'm getting different reactions everywhere I go. I go to restaurants and I've gotten people that blown back when I walk in, which is quite kind of new for me. I have kids that walk up to me first when I'm somewhere where I don't even know the kids
Badia Atcherson
@BMoKareful · 1:48
It's. Thank you for your piece and I will go on to read the second part. I mean listen to read, listen to the second part. But when I think about attractiveness, I think it truly is that saying beauty is an eye of the beholder or wherever it goes and not necessarily thinking as like a spiritual aspect god, but the person, the person that's attracted to you. So it's all in what they are looking for or what they find to be beauty
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Badia Atcherson
@BMoKareful · 3:28
I'm well, had I just listened to both pieces, I would have heard you talk about beauty being in the eye of the beholder. But my thought is, what's your worth? How do you view yourself? What's beautiful to you, about you? Like, what about yourself? I would have to ask that question. To me, what makes me beautiful? What is beauty? What do I think about myself?
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 5:00
All right, so for me, I guess this topic came up because I am more so now living and growing within me to accept the good part for me and to zoom that confidence like, I'm dressed in the way that I want to dress. I'm showing I'm styling my hair the way I wanted to style it
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 2:24
I think it's a whole bunch of categories as to why people in general are single. The only reason I brought up attractiveness is because I watch videos on the internet and it'll be a happy couple and like you said or someone who looks unattractive with somebody else and people like why are they together? Or they'll watch a YouTube and they'll comment meanwhile I'm single while this person is in a relationship
Badia Atcherson
@BMoKareful · 4:40
Now here I am thinking, okay, I'm pretty good, professional, wise, educated. All these different things that I have going on for myself that I can bring to the table outside of my appearance, how I look on the exterior, this person wasn't fully attracted, invested in me because he felt I was too much. I think sometimes when we come with, I must say, whatever some people may say is their total package
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 4:49
But we weren't exclusive. We didn't have a title on there. But what I will say is that he used to say that you think too much, you think too much. And it's like, no, the f*** I don't. My issue is that I don't date people that matches my frequency. And that's one thing that I realized lately. I have to really continue growing and stopping reflecting on everything that didn't work. That's my issue right now
Everything Jay
@everythingjay · 2:57
I'm sorry. I was preparing for my walk or whatnot, but yeah, so I kept on saying, like, if I keep on putting out that energy, I'm going to get it back. Another thing that I noticed about myself is just the power of making my own decision. Like I feel like all my life I've tried to figure me out based on other people's assumptions. When I was okay being single, I felt weird because everybody else was saying that it was a problem