Today is an opportunity to grow. The child is not experiencing alienation. You are. Don't over communicate by saying things such as I miss you. That phrase harms kids as well. Since they are not in control. The alienated child experiences a fear family relationships with the alienator. The child is stuck in the middle between fear and loss. Don't present yourself as sad or depressed. If you are confident and happy, you are the strong. Parents and kids seek you out