When it comes to advice, what happens a lot of the time, more so when people are listening, say on the top of their game, they bring in their A game and everything is going well, that's when people are usually the best at giving advice. But then when they're not on top of their A game or they're just not having a so good day at all, maybe a date is terrible, then they're not accustomed to accepting advice is being given to them
Joshua Desha
@jwarrendeshaĀ Ā·Ā 1:34
I love this, and it's a really good topic. I think one of the biggest things, right, is understanding who to accept advice from and then knowing when to give it. Like you're saying in my mind, when it comes to receiving advice in your mind, you just have to know whose opinion you value the most. Do I want to take advice from this person? Is this person someone of value in my life?
Barbara ššš»š„
@DigitalpenzĀ Ā·Ā 4:49
I would invite them to think about another perspective. So it's an invitation that I offer and they either take it or they don't take it. And if they take it, it's okay. They don't take it, it's okay as well because they might not know who I am or anything about me. So why would they take anything that I say or any advice that I would give? So I really am cognizant of that
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165Ā Ā·Ā 1:10
But that's really what it boils down to, just understanding when to give advice and when to receive it. And again, like you mentioned, also you have to know who to take the advice from if you're receiving the advice, and you also have to know when to give advice. So, I mean, that's just a lot that I was able to gather from your reply to my initial swell cast
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165Ā Ā·Ā 2:08
It's. Good morning. Al Cosbyal here. As I usually say, stay blessed and keep inspiring. I gotta tell you I gotta tell you, I really, really loved your reply. And what I was able to gather from that is just I'm gonna say what what really stuck out to me was just the invitational part because again, that's what it should always come down to when it comes to advice
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77Ā Ā·Ā 1:59
So I totally agree with that. We definitely do that. And I think that's the polite thing to do because most of the time people aren't going people everybody's not going to give you advice that you can use on every level. And then, too, sometimes the advice that they give you, maybe I can't use that today, but maybe it will help me two years down the road
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165Ā Ā·Ā 1:31
But then when they decide to listen, it's more so when they're not around their parents, then they realize or remember what their parents were actually trying to instill in them at that point in time. And the same goes for advice. But then, God willing, they're around long enough, then they will not only adhere to the advice that's being given to them, but also be able to use that to encourage and inspire others
Eluchianna Olive
@LuchiannaĀ Ā·Ā 4:45
You should seek out professional people who have done it to hear the good, bad and the ugly, those type of life choices of deciding to have more children, deciding to adopt children. You want to seek out people that have done that, but they will give you their opinion. It's good and bad, right? But advice, no. That's why I kind of laugh at a lot of these social media
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165Ā Ā·Ā 1:41
Also, if somebody comes to you and you pretty much went through what they went through, then they ask for your expertise and they say, let me have your thoughts or something like that, then that's understandable too. But otherwise just flat out give the advice that's like, you know, the definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So that's going to drive you insane
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKayeĀ Ā·Ā 3:39
And so I value coaching, I value therapy, because I always say I'm a whole team, you see me? But behind me is like so many people, because I have a whole team and I get advice from this team and I get corrected from this team and et cetera. So because I believe in that, I generally don't have a problem taking advice. However, I do consider the source, right?
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165Ā Ā·Ā 3:16
But anyhow, when you think of it, a lot of the unsolicited advice comes more so from the seniors in the society, but more so the elders in the society. And we should definitely be more welcoming of that because they have that wisdom and they have more life experience and they just have been living here for a long time. So they can definitely advise you on a lot of things
Joshua Tito
@ozzymendezĀ Ā·Ā 4:57
Actually, at the time, I didn't know the laws, but anyways, that's an example of something that might not be something that I could take verbatim and apply it in the same way. And I find that a lot