Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 4:36

Intercourse or Commitment!!

But then more so, if you're looking for a commitment, then it shows that you're really interested in getting to know the other person who you express interest in and see if you can build on that. And more so, even the younger generation now seem like they're looking to have a good time. They don't know what it means to be committed. And sad to say, a lot of people really don't know how to be submissive

Which 1 would you rather have?

Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:41
I want to court you for marriage. They never had those conversations. And so a lot of times, especially women, they just assume because they've been sleeping with the guy that they somehow have a commitment. But I think the reality is, like you expressed here, those are two different things. They can be together or they could be separate, apart. But a lot of women get caught up because they have sex. Let it be some good sex
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:12
Because if you're committed to me and I'm committed to you, then anything that we go through together, we focus on. We focus on each other. We focus on each other's abilities, traits, personality, things that we need to uplift each other with. So many things, I'm telling you
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:51
If you're dating to meet a good person, to have someone that you're going to spend the rest of life with or have some good time, good memories with, then you know, and if you're reaching out because you want sexual favors, and quickly, then you know, and if you're that person who is looking for that sincere, serious relationship and you meet someone who's not, you know, a lot of times we overlook the signs and sometimes we address them
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 2:02


And sadly, that is how the society has shaped and molded the men to be. We got to learn to shake things off. Not saying that is easy, but again, we have to learn to stand up right if things don't work out and just move on from there. But again, thank you for your reply. And as always, stay blessed and keep inspiring
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 1:36


What happens is, you know, there are a lot of women, not all women, but vast majority of women in the society, their decision in that regard is based on just emotion and not logic. So when you're looking at it as a commitment standpoint in regards to choosing that over intercourse, it means that whoever you're with, you want to build with them. You don't want it just to be like a smash and dash or a pump and dump or hit and quit
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 3:00


So I can understand why you made the decision that you did. And again, what happens a lot of time is that when decisions are made off of emotion and not logic, we tend to just go the wrong way and ruin things for ourselves in that regard. So at the end of the day, I would definitely have to say that you made the right decision by not letting the guy pursue you. And I'm just speaking for myself based on how I would handle it
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

Welcome to Swell!

Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:49
I don't know why you will let a complete stranger just hit it raw. I can't say no other way. But then a baby comes and now she's like, you don't want to take care of this baby. This man was just trying to have fun. And you were just trying to have fun, too, if he could tell the truth. And now it's like, well, I got him for life
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:57
There has also been times in my life where I've been in a space where I've said, okay, now I am ready for a relationship, and then wanted to experience that person in that way. Most oftentimes, what has happened is it started out, I just want to experience you for fun. And me and that person has spent enough time together. That feeling started to develop, and then it turned into, we both look at one another and like, hey, I like you
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 1:15


And I definitely, I really enjoyed your reply because you were able to, you know, reply to this from both angles, and you definitely hit on a lot of things. But I definitely like what you said about your story with your relationship right now. You know, you let it build. And what happens is, when you let it build like that, I'm sorry, I'm driving. That's where that horn is coming from