When did being self-aware and self-accepting become an option? And what is your relationship to the real you vs other you?
I thought I was just, in some ways putting out questions and ideas that most people wouldn't be triggered or surprised by. I mean, the word authenticity alone is thrown all over the Internet. I feel like that's one of those current popular words on Instagram, for sure. I didn't imagine people saying to me, wow, this is a deep conversation. You're basically saying I have to be aware of and accept myself with all my flaws as I am
I have to be okay that maybe the person I really want to like me isn't going to like me. Maybe I'm going to be rejected by the group I thought I belonged to. So those are like big, scary topics, I think, that go along with not just being self aware. You can be self aware, but self aware to the point of sort of give no, don't care about what other people think. Then you have to accept that you might be alone
And if we're running so fast, just trying to stay afloat to survive, work a job, perhaps have kids and take care of kids, pay the bills, try to get some sleep. I'm also thinking during the pandemic, during the lockdowns, how many articles did we read, how many social media posts did we see where people were actually taking time? They had time to reflect and think on the things that they really wanted and what they really valued
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
So now I'm going to create awareness and I'm going to allow this stuff to bubble up, including the parts of the story about why I've never done this before, why I'm afraid to do it, and then accepting what that is or isn't, and then potentially worrying about the concept of authenticity, which, according to this person, I'm telling you, is a therapist
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:55
I did fall prey to let me go with what majority thinks. And because I was most often in my mother's care based on my father's career, it was let me do whatever will keep her quiet and I didn't have to hear her in my ear and will help me get along so that I can move along, et cetera. And it was at his death that I realized, because my mother still maintained the perspective that people really didn't care for my father
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:58
And I'm using marriage as an example, but there are so many other choices I have made in my life that were, this will get the most applause from people versus, Is this what you want to do, JL? And it took my second husband, which I sent him, lots of love and light, and I'm grateful that's the space of healing I'm at
I've been an executive coach and consultant for 27 years, coaching people in and out of corporate situations and now holistically in people's lives. So if you wanted to know where that data came from, it was not from a trending research. It wasn't for any of that. It was just people responding to the blog that I dropped on Monday. I drop a blog every Monday, and then I do a live on Facebook on Wednesdays called Deep. Work fast
