Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:34
How do we move on after love
And when it's the love that you're not taking anything from anyone. And I love that you care about them and you want the best and you want to share every aspect of your life with them because you painted this picture. When the picture that you painted isn't going to come to life, that gives a whole different meaning to the word love. And moving on. Because if you truly love someone, moving on isn't easy. Moving on takes time, takes steps. It takes patience
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 5:00
Hi Kita. I was listening carefully to your swell until the end. I'm trying to think of what would be the very appropriate answer to give based on me, of my personal experience. But at the end, at your conclusion you said something that was kind of the beginning meaning of my answer. Which means that the way we define love is so differently. I think we talked about this in some previous swells. I don't remember when it was it, but some time ago
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 3:09
So you cannot sacrifice, give your life for free and not getting anything back. This is for men and women, for all of us, especially at this age. So to move on is hard, but you have to think that it's worth it if it was meant to be. You are not going to move on because it's there. And you feel something back from what you are giving
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:28
I mean, if you learn that you're not going to deal with someone who's not going to be there for you or someone that you have to kind of like you're nervous to call or reach out to or someone that's just going to be a phone buddy and not come see you. That's when you know you learned from the last relationship that that's not what you want
R. Porchia
@Block24Media · 1:10
And I was like, well, maybe sometimes you got to look at how did I lose myself? How did I forget who I am and let me hold space by doing those things again. And I think that kind of helps build you back up in a sense, and help you get on with your life on. I'm not sure if there's a real template on how to move on, but time heals all wounds. I'm a huge believer in that
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:14
It's just something that happens and we have to learn that that's part of life. There are some people that are in our lives that are there to encourage uplift, to bring out the best. And there are some people in our lives they do all that, but they also teach us lessons. We're taught something in every relationship that we're in, no matter the type of relationship. We learn more about ourselves as we learn about the other person
Because sometimes your health and your well being is literally tied to that. You don't want to continue to lose pieces of yourself because you're holding on to someone that you're not supposed to, that's not supposed to be with you or no longer align with you or who's not going where you're going. Sometimes we have to let that go. The love, the friendship. We just have to let it go. And we can still love in our hearts, minds or whatever
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
DAYDAY Mcclenton
@KINGPOPOFLA · 3:45
But also, it's true when the other party, like you said, it ain't about money. It ain't about nothing. It's about mental health and emotions, mentally, emotionally. Sometimes when a person says, say, for instance, your mate always says you, you win all the time. Never I you know what I'm saying? Or it's always a reason behind your actions when you never can look beyond it
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:03
But I think that once you love someone, it's kind of like, okay, well, I love this person, and so we can work on it or it can change or I know he or she loves me because but if a person really and truly loves you, and they knew that it was something that you desired or something that you didn't want, they would try their best to do it, especially when it's something simple. Or not to do it when it's something simple
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:35
But a lot of times people get caught up in the he, she, me, we, how people are going to view them, what they're going to lose. If you love someone, losing anything, whether it's losing your availability, whether it's like stepping away from hanging with certain kind of people, whether it's now you got somebody so you're not out there and available, those are things that you sacrifice, like you let go of because you're in love