Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:58
No response is a response !!
But when you are there and you're caring and you're dependable for people and they're not there for you and it's a constantly recurring cycle and they can't communicate with you unless they want to communicate, you got to let people go. You got to let people go. And it can be hard sometimes. But like I said, no response is a response. So if you going through a situation and you're waiting for an explanation for something. Don't wait no longer
You. This was very insightful. I'm new to swell. I listen more than I respond here, and I'm actually an introvert by nature. It's easier for me to sit with headphones on and listen to my fellow podcasters than it is for me to reply. I'm also not comfortable with listening to my own voice yet, and I worry how I sound to people if I'm not talking too slow
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:55
But if you don't text me at all and it's the next day or the day after that, don't even waste your time texting me, baby, because at this point, I don't care either. I don't care either. And I wish people would understand that. And I wish grown people, grown people with grown kids, okay. Would understand that. And again, I'm not just talking about in dating. I'm talking about in friendships
Cheyonia Wade
@Chey · 3:03
You. This is a very good topic. And I take that statement to heart. Like, no response is a response and it's a very powerful response. I think your texting style shows a lot about you as a person, in my opinion. If you're flighty with your text messages and your responses and you don't really have a really good reasoning, that says a lot and it's a lot deeper than one would like to realize
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 0:55
You. Hey, thanks so much for responding. It's not so much this app on the app. Like, I don't care if people respond or not. I mean, you all have the right to or not, but I don't want you to feel like you can't respond because maybe because of judgment. Don't worry about that. Just respond how you've been responding. And you know what?
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:57
But like, when you're dating someone and you're waiting for the response back, which is my situation yesterday, then it makes a lot different because I didn't told you that I like communication. I didn't tell you that this is something that's important to me
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:21
But that's just how it is. But, yeah, I'm just a person that's very personable and everybody's not like me. And that's why people love me, because I am so available. But sometimes you got to make yourself unavailable for people. But I won't never just leave you sitting on red, especially
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 2:24
Keith, first of all, don't you ever say Kay like that again. And I'm drinking some pop and you didn't. Made me spit out my. You didn't wade me spit out my pop. Laughing at you tomorrow. Kay, listen, first of all, so let me just. I want you to practice this with me, okay? Want you to practice this with me because I had to practice it. It didn't come easy, okay? I had to practice it
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:24
And like you said, when you really care for somebody with that l word, it makes it really hard. It makes it really hard because you want to be there for them like you want them to be there for you. But then you got to understand that not everybody deserves that. And it takes a while sometime to get it in our heads that everybody's not so deserving of that love that we're giving. But yeah, I already went down this road
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 2:04
Hi, Kitha. How are you? I agree with this. No response is a response for the most part. Yeah. I do try to give people the benefit of the doubt, though, and kind of put myself in their shoes and be like, all right, maybe they're overwhelmed, maybe they're stressed, maybe they're depressed. There's a lot going on. Maybe they're thinking of ways to respond to this. So I do try to
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:00
You won't believe what journey you put me on again, the same cycle that I've been seeing that I keep on having faith in that's going to lead to another direction. But after a while you find yourself as being naive and stupid. But that's the relationship wise, but friendship wise, I'm good friends and we haven't talked in some days
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 1:43
I didn't realize that I was even talking about a situation that was specific to you. But either way, I'm glad that I could offer some type of advice because like I said, you kind of just have to let people do them. And as you said, you are worthy of love and great things and great relationships and friendships and all of that. And you have to tell yourself, like, I've done what I can do. I'm not about to over exert myself anymore
Dove Serene
@birdsbath · 1:05
It. Well said, and I agree. And as you were talking, I was listening and thinking to myself, how does that make me feel? And that's a hard one, because it's just, it's not a good feeling, necessarily, because it makes you feel unimportant, makes you feel less than or just, you know, kicked to the curb, this sort of thing
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:50
But when it's somebody that we are connected to and we've been knowing for a while or we have feelings for or we have a strong friendship, that's when we begin to feel like, hey, what they doing? Just like, for instance. And I do it. I know I do it. So I know it's something I got to work on