Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 5:00
Acknowledging a broken heart
I knew them before but this is our second time interacting with each other if you want to call it that. The first time I dated them it wasn't sexual but it was more of a mental relationship. And it wasn't love but it was definitely a friendship kind of romance kind of thing. And then I went on in life and I left because he went on a road that I wasn't on. And later on down the road, you know, I was 17 then. 16, 1718
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:51
But all in all, I'm just here to say that we're human. We can love. There's gonna be times where people don't love us back or don't fulfill the love that we desire. And if we see people that can't bring us what we desire. I'm not talking about money. I'm talking about the things that we really value, like quality, time, commitment. Why do we continue to sabotage ourselves? We shouldn't
Michelle Murad
@MichelleMurad · 1:05
Wow. Wow, wow, wow, wow. Thanks so much for sharing, by the way. I feel like I am you, you are me. We are one. Yeah. I totally get it. I totally get it. It's wild how that thing works, right? It's like certain people fulfill a moment in time, and then that's it. Or maybe you reconnect, or you don't
Derek Pierre
@DerekPierre · 3:32
Damn, this was powerful. I felt that shook me up a little bit. One, thank you for sharing. That was so raw. But two, I'm sorry for everything that you went through. I agree with the last person. I know for a fact that person for sure misses you. But I think, too, you touched on some really important stuff there where I think for men and women alike. One, said he wasn't satisfied with the position he had in your life
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:13
And he would say, you know, I can call you. And it was true. He can call me. He would be down, and by the end of the phone call, I would say, you feel better, don't you? And I could hear it in his voice and, you know, it was good. It was good. So, yeah, whatever happens, happens. But I'm kind of leaning towards it
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:52
It's normal to get your heart broken, but it doesn't mean that I always say broken. We learn from everything that we go through, whether it's good or bad. You know, we have a story to tell, and we can help other people, and we can reach out. You know, we can reach out or not. But if we don't speak, how can we reach everybody else? How can we tell our stories?
Because if you're in a good relationship, even a bad relationship, you're still in a relationship. What I come to find out is that the performance start to fail. Relationships don't fail. The performance start to fail. That's why it's so important to truly be yourself, be upfront, be honest when you meet the person. And just like you say, I know you guys met when you were younger, but a whole lot of things happen in between
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:59
But I don't want to be alone either. But sometimes people need to separate and be alone for a little bit. So that they can figure things out. Sometimes we enable people when we fill in the blanks for them or answer questions for them, you know, we need to let people do stuff on their own. And I was at that point of letting do on to, because I can't force anybody to do anything. You have to be ready and willing for what you want to do
I feel the more you think about him, you really picking up him, thinking about you and feeling you because it takes two to communicate and it's not all of a sudden you chose to send this message out tonight on what was on your heart, even though it may have been something that's on your mind for a while. But you know, just being vulnerable to post this evening, I feel you may be picking up on the energy he's putting out there of missing you as well
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:12
Like, everything that I had doubt in or, you know, that, you know, every woman has something that she doesn't like about herself. Let me tell you, he made me feel so comfortable about it. I did not feel uncomfortable around him, period. So to say that, yeah, I don't know, about reaching out. I don't know. Um
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 1:15
And I forgot to add this. I'm coming back just really quick. Yes, I know he thinks of me. We have that connection so strong. We feel each other emotions. We feel each other like, I can't describe it because I've never had that with anybody. And, you know, anybody that I interacted with or had a relationship with, I never had that. And I would always think
Kimberly Allender
@KimmieA66 · 4:36
And it's hard for the other person to continue to put up with that crap. It's really. It's a crazy thing. And sometimes you do have to walk away from it and make that decision to do that, to see if that person can really just heal on their own. Pride never got anybody anywhere. Bullheadedness never got anywhere. Anybody anywhere. Stubbornness never got anybody anywhere. Tenacity, perseverance, persistence, that's a key. And patience. Patience, patience
Kimberly Allender
@KimmieA66 · 2:03
And like you said, you have to detach from it a little bit and continue on with your life and do the things that make you happy in the meantime. And what's meant to be will be. I believe that you have a divine connection with this person. Thank you again for sharing
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:58
I'm taking life day by day, you know, which I am. And he knows my situation with my son and other things I did with life. And, you know, so basically, I'm blessed for where I'm, what I'm going through and how I'm handling and how things are going
Kimberly Allender
@KimmieA66 · 4:45
You know, we're human. We're living this human experience. It's what we're supposed to, you know, do is feel our emotions and not be ashamed of that and not hide them and to recognize them and work through them and, you know, be able to put our ego, you know, aside, but know that that's
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 0:59
Hey, thanks so much for responding again. A lot of times we. Sometimes we do feel alone in the world, but there's always someone out there who feels like we feel. So. You're absolutely correct, and I'm glad that you commented, because it's been so much of a comfort. And I'm just gonna be who I am. I'm just gonna be who I am, and I'm just gonna take life day by day and whatever happens, happens
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 4:42
And I don't think it was because of me, for sure, because we never really made any kind of a commitment to each other. But in the back of my mind, I always think, you know, if, you know, because I think everybody does that with a suicide person. Like, if if I had just done this, if I had just done that, would it have been different? Would he still be here? It's not a fair way to look at things
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:57
And even if it's just friendship, I don't want to lose him, you know, and I feel like he doesn't want to lose me. But at the same time, there is something there just holding it back. And, you know, it's not for me to figure out. It's for him to tell me if he wants. And if not, okay, but I'm not stopping life. But I'm at the point now that I really am not interested in dating