Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:38
What behaviors do you bring to a relationship that you shouldn’t? Be HONEST
So I'm sharing my thing that I do that I'm not aware of sometimes. And that's just ignoring people. Subconsciously ignoring people. And it's not funny, but I do it sometimes. And I'm going to be more aware of that in my next relationships to come. Now, last relationship, did it end because of that? No, it didn't. But I'm still at fault for whatever happened
Natasha Nurse
@DressingRoom8 · 4:46
So even just managing that and just ensuring that the conflicts don't get in the way of still having kind of the physical connections that every healthy relationship needs, but could go on and on. Like I said, what a hell of a great conversation. Talking point here. Looking forward to hearing your reply. Thanks
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 2:28
Right at the moment when something happens, I'll wait and go home and then send like a voice clip or a text message, or I'll go on messenger and send a message on messenger and I'll do it that way. And then I'll send it to the person and wait for them to respond to me. And it'll be like, hey, when such and such happened, it made me feel such and such
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:56
If you feel like you won this debate, then go ahead with your bad self, but I'm going to leave this alone. So last week I was asked, do you feel like that's an effective way to handle a difference of opinion or a contentious part of a conversation? And no, shutting down is not an effective way to handle that. It's really not. And so I know that is something I need to work on
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:53
I've had my husband cheat on me. I've had another woman get pregnant by him. I had that happen. And so in my mind, I can love you a thousand percent. But if you come to me and say, angela, I'm done. I'll say, well, very well. And people don't like that. They want you to fight. They want you to not fight over them, but fight for them. Like, are you going to work this out?
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 1:30
And she would grab my arm, she would hug up against know, and people would call her gay because of know. And because she was my friend, I kind of felt like I had to stand back. She coming too close, but she wasn't like that at all. So we have to be mindful of other cultures, and I think you are right. Like, women would leave me alone. I don't want to talk about it, especially when we get upset sometimes
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:14
You know, I think it's wonderful that you're able to say, hey, I want to do better, and I will do better. I need to do better, but I'm working on it as I go. That's wonderful because a lot of people cannot see their own faults. You know, we see other people's stuff, but we don't see our own. And I could definitely understand with you sending messages or whatever, because I will, man. Used to
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:19
It's not like I have to address it right at the heat of the moment, but we're going to talk about it before I go to bed because I can't go to bed mad because I won't be able to sleep. You'll be snoring on your side of the bed, and I'll be up thinking about what I could have did and how I can't sleep and what I need to talk about, and it's just too much for me
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:12
Hey, auntie, you're right. Like, a lot of people don't like it when people don't give them a reaction. That's what they're looking for. I'm so sorry to hear about you having to deal with your ex and the cheating and the baby, because that hurts. I mean, I haven't been married to somebody, and that happened. But when I was 18, I had a boyfriend that I was supposed to marry
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
She spoke to the therapist and they had come to the conclusion that something was wrong with me. I can't remember what they called me. Might have been a narcissist, it might have been a sociopath, whatever it was, it's because she said, I've never seen this man cry. And I know that there's been situations in his life that a person, it would require a person to cry. But I've never seen him in tears. I've never seen him cry
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 5:00
I've dealt with a few people who are like that, and I've discovered that it's because of the person's background. It's because of what you've been through in life. A lot of times we say, oh, we dealt with this and it hasn't affected us. We're fine. We've gotten through it. Yeah, maybe on the surface you've gotten through it, but there's still some things that you need to deal with that you haven't
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:56
What if you were somewhere and you needed something in order to be able to live the next day, but you so sad and you don't know how to process the chance that you may die tomorrow and not be around your loved ones, that you don't tell anybody at all. You're going to lose out on the opportunity to be around for years, to be able to love on your people if you communicate. But if you don't, you're going to be dead
Lolita Eaddy
@Woodiemountain · 0:45
You. I don't like confrontation. I'm a person that loves to keep the peace. When I'm upset, I keep to myself. But if you keep pressing an issue, then I will express my feelings very well. When I do, I'm the bad person. You. Once you get me started, it's hard for me to calm down. Then I have to walk it off. Once I walk it off, I'm cool again
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 1:09
I have to talk to myself over and over. Actually, I'm practicing silence right now, and I talked to myself several times a day about why I'm practicing silence instead of just sending long text messages or calling and leaving and, well, I wouldn't read voicemail, but. Or like sending a voice memo or even calling and talking about it for hours. There's no sense. Sometimes we just need to be quiet. And so I'm quiet
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:58
And is there anything you would do different in a new relationship? Some people would get it that I was essentially asking, hey, are you a person that's willing to own your stuff and be accountable and responsible for how you show up and occur to and for others? And then some people who did not understand that, of course, were not open to that question. And my assessment of that, I'm not saying that I'm right
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:40
And I was talking to her about the last situation that I was in, the last relationship, the guy I was talking to, and she asked me about him. I said, you know what? I really don't want to talk about him because I'm trying to get past it. And I told her, I said, I really, right now, really don't want a relationship. I don't
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 5:00
That really turned me off. And my second dating after we broke up after three years, it was very much similar. Then I came to think, is that a style that people don't. When you are in family relationships, you don't care what's around you, how you solve your problems. So to cut this story short, is that my way of confrontation is that confrontation exists in any relationship. There's no doubt. I'm not an angel