Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:08
I will not tolerafe disrespect!!!
You. Good morning. Swell. It's been a little bit. As I'm heading on the way to work, I'm thinking about a topic, and I'm thinking about something that I'm dealing with right now. So I want to know, what are your boundaries for not accepting a person's apology or not allowing them back into your circle after something's happened?
But where my line is, where I draw the line is if I confront somebody, and I usually do it peacefully, I'll approach them at a time that works so that they're not embarrassed by me saying something, even though in some instances, what they did to me was incredibly embarrassing. Anyway, I'll approach them. I'll talk to them about it. And it's not necessarily that I'm expecting an apology right away
Ms.Hollie D.
@over40podcast · 4:39
She wasn't there in many life changes, and I'm a firm believer of attracting like minded people. And in that instance, I had to realize that she wasn't a like minded person. And the confirmation was in. That is when I approached her about it. And I was met with defensiveness and gaslighting, and that was it. One thing I've learned over this life journey as an adult is that anyone that intentionally or indirectly brings trauma to my doorstep. I have to let them go
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:34
About six months. Okay. That's an associate. That's an acquaintance. So I think for me, people use the word friend too loosely. I don't use that word very much and definitely not best friend
2 cents
@the2cents · 3:02
We're not being loving people, and if we want to be caring and loving and having all of these feelings and talk about it and all of this, well, then we have to consider the fact that that person didn't know that they were disrespecting what you might have thought of it being intentional. Hey, I didn't know it was intentional. I didn't even know I was disrespecting you. I guess that's my thoughts towards it
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 1:51
And I know that it's probably with something mental, and I definitely understand mental health problems. I get that fully because I have dealt with that a lot in my life. With family members. However, that doesn't give them cop out. That doesn't give them a reason or excuse to treat people how they want to. And how dare you tell me that I'm evil and I'm no good and all these other things and then say, oh, well, I'm sorry
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:18
But, you know, both people had right to speak upon how they know whether it was Tiffany's real dog that was her baby. And then Jocelyn, she was know, she grew up. And in other countries, dogs are not considered like pets or friends. They're considered very evil things. I mean, we say where I say it now, there's a lot of Africans and they actually are scared of dogs
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 2:35
But those people are hard to come by. As far as the lady I was talking about, she was actually my employee. She wasn't a friend. She was an employee. But she tried to be a friend, but I didn't let her in like that. But it was a matter of 14 days before she exploded. And I was going to let her go, but she ended up quitting
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:05
Hey, thank you so much for applying to my swell. I want to thank you for being responsive, and you're right. But so far here, because I'm in Louisville, Kentucky. And let me tell you, these people here, they will fight you in a minute. They will fight you. They will shoot you. And, you know, people, they rather use guns these days anyway than to use anything else. But, yeah, I'm not from here
Ms.Hollie D.
@over40podcast · 4:09
And sometimes it has to happen where things hit you right in the face. But I know that I've grown because I wish her no ill wills. If anything, I hope that she continues wherever she was, she's improved upon it her position in life. And I'm good. I've been living in a place of solitude and really just been learning how to be a friend to myself
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:03
Sometimes we are not around people or we lose people because we need to focus on ourselves. I find that at the time as when we're gaining strength, I'll tell you that for the last seven years, I've really learned who's there for me and who's not. And I've been alone several times. But now I will say in the process, it was not fun. It was hard to understand why I was sitting by myself
That's when it comes to life. So if you have people in your life that don't respect you, don't value you, I don't care who they are, family, friends, whatever. Remember, you only have this one life, and it's very short. So use your time wisely. Do not waste it on people that will bring you no peace, no happiness, and waste your time. Bye