What price do we pay for instant gratification?
And sometimes when you deal with people like that, they might not be what you want in the beginning, but it could be something that you want as you guys grow together, as you learn each other, as you build that foundation, as you invest that time. So what is it that we're giving up in the midst of wanting that instant gratification? Because it's something that we really don't want to work for. What are you giving up? How do you can't know?
Antionette Wiggins
@Queen11 · 2:41
Good morning. Good morning. Good morning. This is the queen. God bless you. I think once sometimes, if we're connected and we've prayed and asked God for certain things, he does give us certain things instantly. Because we're living right, we're doing right. And he's given us a gift, a blessing, it. And not always a relationship is broken because we didn't take the time
Because I'm not advocating for someone want to put their desires to the side 100% or anything. I'm just saying a lot of the times it's easier for people to do things that they don't have to really put their heart and soul into because if it doesn't work, it hurts less. That's what I've observed. It's easier for somebody to do superficial things or to choose the easier route. That doesn't take much effort because you're not investing anything
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Antionette Wiggins
@Queen11 · 5:00
And I have learned to not waste a man's time when I meet someone, we're vibing, we're communicating, we're getting along. He wants to continue to see me. I let that be known up front that I'm not adding sex to friendships that grows into relationship. They're gone like ghosts. But then they say they want a good woman. They want a woman who's committed, faithful, patient, understanding, spiritual
And also, I wanted to add, I feel like what guys don't understand is it is rare, I think, to find a woman who is well put together and has her values and is basically the woman that you were just describing. It is going to be more difficult to find that than somebody who is just willing to just give it up like that. Again, not judging anyone, but I wish that guys would look at it as these things that are harder to obtain