Is old-age a curse?
But just imagine if they would have considered you as a burden in their young age. What would be your situation? Would you even imagine how horrible your life would be? We are forgetting all the things. We forget the meaning of the word gratitude. We have forgot the meaning of word love, affection. Yesterday I saw a couple of around 70 to 75 years and they are struggling with their own course
We offered them a fresh and hot food and after having their when the people finished their food, I got a chance to talk to them individually and spend some 2030 minutes there. I would like to tell about one person because of time constraints. I will just give an example of one person who was very fit, healthy, strong, tall and he was around 70 plus years and it did not look like that, but he was 70 years. So I asked him uncle, why are you here?
So that guy who got two children who are in OS this guy ended up staying in a voltage home which is having a very toxic environment. So imagine the amount of stress, amount of uneasiness and a depression which he's going through. So we went there thinking that we would give them the fresh food and make them happy. We made them dance. Everything is fine. But unfortunately, there's a dark truth that stays there. Even once we leave that place, they just start remembering their kids
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
We are seeing the dark side of we are seeing the darkest side of the familial tie ups, the darkest side of relationships at the cost, at the expense of livelihood. And this concerns me a lot. Somehow when I thought deeper about it, this is what I came up with. Post retirement, one of the things that happens is that parents have become so habituated to taking care of the children that they don't want to separate anymore. That's the only mission they have
Death is a very brutal reality and we all need to make peace with it in order to be able to move to the new beginning of life. But for most people, especially the elderly people, have difficulty in approaching that day. And every day that they wake up, they feel that it might be their last day. The more the age passes, the more that feeling gets deep rooted
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 1:27
But they do want that, and at the same time, they do not want to look after their parents. I think the best thing a person can do is be there for your parents, because they were there for you throughout your life, and they're going to be there throughout your life. So it really saddens me when I hear about such incidents like you've mentioned here
The one who did everything for you, the one who sacrificed their entire life and happiness just for the sake of fulfilling your wishes and making sure you are happy all the time, do they deserve that? And you made me really emotional by sharing the story of the parent who has children who live in overseas. So after listening all these kind of things, I still felt even more emotional and I could connect all the dots and many incidents that I witnessed year with the kind of experiences that you have shared
So in that movie, what happens basically is his mother is a very good writer. But before marriage, she used to write different kinds of stories. And all. Once after marriage, no one asked her what her interest is, what she loves to do, what she wanted to become. No one at least attempted to know that. And what happens is hero actually thinks that he is a very good writer. And he writes and he tries to sell a book. But no one buys it
Hi Ranjana Kamo. First of all thank you so much for taking your time and putting forward your valuable opinions and points in the form of SVEL. I do appreciate your effort and you are absolutely true. These days children, they don't want to take up the responsibility of parents but they they want to be a part of the kind of riches their parents have, the kind of money that they have gained
And there are so many examples in our history that we have learned, like Lord Sri Ram and Krishna. But the reality is that the present generation is so busy and so confused with their own lives. They don't know how exactly to take care of their parents. They don't have time. They don't think it's important to sit with the parents, talk to them, fulfill their duties towards them. I think it's just that the old age society is just neglected there
And there are very few who are in a confused state, who are unable to understand the worth of the parents and because of the life that they are dreaming, they are unable to know how to find out or how to actually manage multiple things or how to take care of parents especially. And all in that particular process, they are abandoning them
So I don't think you have to feel so guilty about reaching out for help. Care and caregiving is not a small task. It's demanding. And we have to find a time from our busy days to be there for our aging parents. I think it looks like it's two sides of coin, so you'll have to understand. And personally, I believe, like, if I talk about my old age, I would not want to be a liability to my children
And apart from that, considering I gave birth to someone so it's their responsibility to take care of me is not something correct, I feel so I also agree with your opinion on this particular aspect and thank you so much for putting your points in such a wonderful manner. Have a great day
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 4:56
But that being said, if your parents have done things for you, if they have sacrificed for you, if they have truly done a committed parenting, then it's extremely sinful to treat your parents in such an appalling manner. So thank you. Thank you for starting this conversation, and I'll see you around