The first time I confessed my feelings to a guy…..😂
And so there was a lot of chemistry like that, but nothing happened. I wasn't really sure of what it was, whether it was serious enough. But one thing I did understand is that I kind of thought, like, it wouldn't work out. We were incompatible. I quickly realized that after becoming friends with him, even though we had so much chemistry
And my message was, you need to help me get over it. And the funny thing is, jokes on me. The very next day, the very, very next day, he started dating a senior, and I was even more confused. And I was just like, oh, man, did he. Anyway, so that was a story. I was like, was he already dating someone?
Blair Redmond
@blairbearing · 0:51
I was very bold like you last year and told three people that I was crushing on that I was crushing on them and still single. But I like being honest and I'm a pretty direct person, so I'm going to continue being that way. And I haven't told anyone I like them lately, but I do have a new brush and
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 1:20
Hi candy. What amazes me is the way you tell the story. Your story. You are saying it just like it is. Take it or leave it. You are no sugar coating it. Just how you feel. It's something most women will not do because they are afraid of being judged. You just say it just like it is. That's great
Gunjan Joshi
@Bibliophile · 4:13
Hello, Candy. Thanks a lot for describing such a beautiful instance. And that, too, with so much of naivety and innocence. Indeed, you must be really floored when that guy asked you the question that, what are you reading these days? I think it is the most adorable or desirable question a man could ask from a reading woman. So would also like to recall an instance with a man who read my work intently
And I think at that point of time, he may not have been able to gather the courage. It rarely happens with people, with guys. It happens rarely that. First of all, nowadays it's very difficult. There's a very thin line between, you know, genuinely walking up to a girl and telling them that you like them and that girl taking it in the right way and that girl taking it in the wrong way. And there's a very thin line between it
Right? So I really, really hope that you find someone who really reciprocates the energy that you put into them. I think that's the best. That's the best thing to hope for. And you will definitely find it. But enjoy your singlehood as well. Right? There's nothing wrong with us single girls. I'm single as well, and I'm quite content. And I'm happy, and I'll be happy if I find someone
I'm a very straightforward kind of person. I know what I want, so I don't want someone or I don't want to be with them. So in this case, I had feelings for him, but I knew that, okay, I didn't see this going anywhere. So I was just kind of like, here's my friend. So I was kind of like, you know what? I just wanted closure. I think I just wanted to get it out of my system
When we get to know or anybody, when we get to know the other person, it's like it's important to know their good qualities and their bad qualities. And I think within the first few months of meeting someone, you're most, usually everybody's on their best behavior. But it's only with time that we get to realize that, you know what? These are their bad qualities and you realize whether you're able to handle them. And that's the truth of it, right
This, my friend, was awesome as a friend, but as a boyfriend, he would have been bad for me. Lekea, as an in a couple dynamic, we wouldn't have worked out. There were quite a few of his qualities that were just very difficult to deal with. He was shy, and he was also not as communicative. And so that would have been very hard for me to deal with. I think I recognized all of these things
Cheyonia Wade
@Chey · 3:28
It's kind of like one of those flighty things. It was like one of those trial and everything error things just to see how this works, because I had never attempted to address someone first, address a man first, or say, I'm interested in you first. But I was like, the pulling was so strong. I was just like, I can't take this feeling like, okay, whatever it is, I have to address it now because I can't do this
Hello, Shay, and thank you for sharing your experience. And, oh, man. You know two things. Number one, I am so like, wow. I was like in awe that you are such a confident woman who, you know yourself to the extent that you're like, yeah, you know what, I'm not going to play to you. I just showed you my interest, but that doesn't mean that you can do whatever you want
Cheyonia Wade
@Chey · 3:50
I don't know if I have the right words for it. It's kind of like that. You know what? When a guy picks you up and he's like, oh, well, where do you want to go to eat? And you're like, what? You're supposed to have this already planned. What do you mean? Where do I want to go? Yeah, that type of thing. I don't know