Self Regulation: Can you Survive Alone on a Deserted Island?
And you also start choosing relationships that truly, truly nurture you, that you're not seeking these relationships from a sense of loneliness because you're desperate to have people around you who can hold you and validate you. So these kind of relationships reduce. And thirdly, there is a power that you get when you can sit in uncomfortable emotions and to control it. And you obtain a sense of peace at the end of the day
Hi Candy. First of all, I would like to thank you so much for coming up with this wonderful topic. Let me tell you one thing so this is something really, really important. I feel most of the time we are completely dependent on few people. Whenever we feel something is going wrong or something is tough to handle or we are going through certain emotions, there will be one person in our life whom we look up to and we actually want to share everything with them
Gunjan Joshi
@Bibliophile · 2:48
Good evening, Candy. I always liked your topics for discussion and this time also it is very beautiful and I really like the phrase self regulation. And this is what people should do when a loving friend or a sibling is not around. Despite the fact that a human being cannot live alone in an island, one should be meant for his or her emotions
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 3:57
What is triggering it and what can I do about it? So it's important to not just let yourself run wild, because mind and heart cannot be tackled the way with the speed with which your thoughts and your feelings run, the intensity with which you feel at times. It's not controllable. And that's problematic because if you can't control your thoughts and your feelings, then it becomes difficult to regulate our conduct
Hello. Good morning. I really, really relate to the emotions that you expressed right in the beginning of your response, the emotions you were talking about. You're right. Because when we have a small group of people that we lean on and when they're not available, yes, we do get a bad sort of feeling. Like a lot of mixture of emotions and I think a lot of, like, a little bit of anger, a little bit of how come they're not there?
And this would start a cycle of disappointment and I would feel very sad about it. And I would wonder why is it that people are not offering me the same thing that I'm offering them? And I've come to the conclusion that, you know what? Number one, maybe I'm just different. Maybe there are people who are givers. That's just the way they are
Then you can't talk to anybody. Who are you supposed to talk to about a conflict that you have with a closed one or the loved one or the very people you actually talk things through or regulate things with? Right. So that's also an important thought I had, like so that means that it is important, extremely important to regulate yourself. Be able to regulate yourself, no matter what the situation, the environment, or the circumstances
Meenu Kaur
@tailored979 · 2:54
It's my observation that all of us have to live alone, no matter how many family members we have around, how many relationships we have around. But towards the end, or at the end, we are accountable ourselves. Like whatever good, bad or choices or whatever we have to make in our life, we are ourselves accountable for all those things
Good morning, Meenu. And I'm so glad that you resonated with this swell topic that I had put out. And I think you've beautifully spoken, a word that has kind of summed up everything I was saying, which is self reliance. And that is absolutely correct. Most accurately correct. And I think, you know, we as people are communal creatures, we're social creatures
Adarsh Rai
@TheDevilsHorse · 4:03
Being the only child of my parents, sometimes I'm not able to fathom that feeling at all. And that leaves me undone at times. So thank you so much for inviting me. But at a certain point of time, what I feel is that our life is like an island. And every day we are trying to create a more unique space for ourself, a more livable space for ourselves in our own thought process