Great Expectations = Great Disappointments
We had a good relationship, and long story short, but she ended up becoming the very obstacle to my promotion, and I ended up leaving my work to go to greener pastures. But at the end of the day, I learned that nobody is going to advocate for you and your best interest. It's up to you to advocate for yourself
And this is how I came to terms with this expectation. The next expectation, which is going to be the last expectation I'm going to talk about, is the expectation from our relationships and guys. The way I learned this was when it came to my parents, is that my parents are not the nurturing type. It's just a fact. They are extremely independent, open minded, goal oriented, and ambitious
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 1:17
So that is the reason that probably when we have expectations, they are bound to bring in disappointments as well. So, yes, we are human. We will have expectations. But I think we must keep in mind that expectations will rarely be fulfilled and people will not live up to that expectation that you have of them. So let's just keep that in mind. I think that would really help in causing less disappointments. Thank you for sharing this. Bye
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 4:45
And, yeah, I think I have come to terms with the fact that there will be times when I will be disappointed by people, whether that be a friend, a partner, my family, parents, whatever it might be. And instead of becoming bitter about it, instead of holding on to that, I have decided to just move on from all of that
Hello. Candy Kadambari here. Thank you for your invite. First of all, I really like your swells. You know, you talk about such important things in life and expectations are such a big cause of unhappiness. So many times I have done good for people. But I have only received so much of negativity and bitterness in return that it affected be so much that even today, when I remember those incidents, I feel like crying. I feel like thinking that goodness is not rewarded
Hello, Ranjana, and thank you for your response and also for your viewpoint. As someone who has worked in corporate, I have a number of friends who are in corporate, and I've heard that it's quite brutal because of the high stress levels. And also it does a number on your mental health. And, you know, personally, I've never worked in the corporate sector. I've worked with ngos and I have worked in Christine Mission hospitals
And also, the second thing you talked about, which is in terms of what happens when you're expecting, your expectations are not met, and you're having repeated disappointments from people, and at what point do we let go? Right? And I think I've been here as well, where there are certain friendships I've had, where I've been like, hey, dude, please don't do that
You know, for someone who is a good person, who's trying to do good in this world that there are people who have made you feel less for the goodness that you've given them. And I think we, as people who are good hearted, right? We try to do good to others. And sometimes people make you feel like, what is the point in me doing good? And they just take and they don't return the favor, right?
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 3:51
And I see the positive things everywhere. Even the place where people don't see positive, I see positive. That does not mean I don't have my downtime. I have also a time where I feel things, but they don't really last longer in my heart. I just move quickly to something more positive. So life is beautiful and I make it beautiful. The one to make the life beautiful is not the world. It's you yourself. Make it beautiful around you
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 0:45
But the moment they feel that you may be a competition or they are threatened by you in any way, then you had it. And I think if we keep that in mind, maybe the disappointments would not be that harsh. Take care. Bye
Even the next day, next moment we have another. And if unfortunately or fortunately, we are not able to achieve that, able to set up, able to fulfill that expectation, then this process of disappointment starts. And then we will keep hovering, keep thinking, feeling, have lot of emotions around, putting lot of emotions around it, and put ourselves in a cage that nothing is like that nothing is happening in the life. And it's the most difficult thing to overcome
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 5:00
Yes, people are disappointments and when you sort of analyze that sentence, that sentence comes from the very feeling of dejection betrayal when an expectation is not met by these people. And very early on in life I sort of understood that I am for myself and every person is not going to stay around forever, including my parents. So I sort of have to become my own rock and I have to become my own support system before anything else
Candy, you are absolutely right. The more you have expectations, the more you get disappointments. It is better that you don't have any expectations, because expectations is, for example, if you are doing something, you expect the other to respond in so and so way. So you, candy, define someone's response to certain things, right? So that depends on the situations. That depends on the. They are in the kind of traumas that they are going through and all
Hello, Vivek. Thank you so much for your response to this. Well, and, you know, I'm so glad that this is a topic that you also were thinking about, because this is definitely something about that I was reflecting in my own life. And something you said, no. Really caught my eye, caught my ear. Not my eye, caught my ear when you said vicious cycle
And I have to keep myself in check conscientiously. I have to be like, oh, man, I have this expectation and this is why I'm feeling a sense of disappointment and to accept it and to move on. But it doesn't change the fact that we have got some bitter, we've learned some bitter lessons and have gotten some wounds because of people who have come and taught us this lesson. So that's what I thought about when you said that
At the end of the day, we will get disappointed. So thanks, Gauri, for responding and for also bringing up that that really did make me think about the other person when it comes to what's going on with them. So thank you and hope you have an amazing Sunday