The "G" in Guilt
The other interesting aspect of guilt is that we can experience it whether we have done something wrong or we haven't. We can be held captives to guilt by our actions or those of others, our words and those of others. We can even be held captive by ideologies which are self inflicted or imposed by society, culture and religion. And the fascinating thing is that guilt is not necessarily disadvantages all the time, right? Because it holds us accountable to people or society
Ranjana Kamo
@Gamechanger · 0:17
You. Guilt is a restricting emotion and definitely pulls you back and stops you from moving ahead in life. Thank you for this. Well, have a lovely evening. Bye
sun sun
@calmingtalk · 0:48
Hello. Thank you for the informative post you tried. Guilt can have many advantages and disadvantages. What's important is that we keep it in check. So according to me, guilt stems from the value system that we hold ourselves to, whether it be personal, cultural or religious, just as you mentioned. So the same act might cause a lot of guilt to a person, while the same will not have any kind of guilt for the other person
They use harsh words, and they don't even feel bad about it. They don't even feel guilty about it. But feeling guilty is that you have your conscience alive that I have done something wrong, and I should apologize for it. So thank you so much, ma'am, for inviting me to your swell, and I'm looking forward to you in another swell. Thank you so much. Estimation. Lots of success
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 3:39
And some people, they really struggle with that, but they would never say it publicly. But in their private space, and I suspect in their private space, they admit that. They admit the guilt. They recognize that they did something wrong, but they don't want because being arrogant or something, they don't want to admit publicly they did
Jeremiah Myer
@Jeremiah73 · 3:53
And they didn't feel less because they didn't have those things, but they felt more because I was there to support them and to give them my love. So on one hand, I think guilt is absolutely necessary. But on the other hand, I feel if we put too much guilt on ourselves, that's not a good thing either. Particularly guilt that we don't have any control of. I sometimes feel very guilty as a white man for all the things that white men have done
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 2:36
So I think forgiveness, forgiveness of the self, I think is the most important key in this processing of guilt that happens within oneself. So, yeah, thank you. Thank you for posting this. Thank you for igniting these sparks of intellectual stimulation, in a way. And, yeah, I mean, it's wonderful how you talk about these so called negative emotions in positive light also. So that's a wonderful quality that you have. Thank you, Candy. Thank you
We are guilt of doing something wrong and all. And as you said, guilt will always have a psychological impact, candy. It disturbs us in the form of our thoughts, in the form of our actions. Everywhere we can find the influence of the guilt and that will never allow us in. Keep moving forward and it will stop us and it creates a kind of negative feeling in our mind that we are not worthy and that will actually focus on deteriorating our self confidence
Hello, Gauri, and thank you so much for telling me that you enjoy the Alphabet series. Sometimes I wonder, oh man, is this really childish to be like a for this, B for this? But I'm glad that I'm doing this project. It keeps me entertained, really. And that also, I'm glad that there are people out there like you who also enjoy it and look forward to it. So coming to this topic of guilt, usually I generally share about a topic
I try to stretch my mind and really try to go far and wide when it comes to thinking about certain things. I'm glad. I'm glad that it's appreciated, and it also stimulates other people. Lekea, yourself. And as you were talking, one thing popped out. Of course, I think the self forgiveness part. Right. I think you mentioned that there were times in childhood or in the past, things we have done that we're not really proud of
I think towards the end of your response, you had mentioned that you had experienced guilt as a white man. And I think this is the first time that I've ever heard anybody say that. I haven't heard that before. And it was intriguing to me because immediately I was like, you could feel guilty as a representative of a category of people that you're in. So in this instance, you felt guilty because of what the mistakes that other white men in the past had done
And he had allowed the guilt to take a hold of him so much that he literally, he would wear black to grieve, constantly grieve. And he refused to. I mean, what he had experienced was, like, two decades ago, 20 years ago, and he only wore black. Refused to move forward. And also, another thing is he refused to allow good things into his life. He had such low self esteem. It was so extreme
Hello, Kadambari. And thank you for your response. And please feel free to call me Candy. I'm too young to be called ma'am, but I was very, very honored. And I'll embrace the ma'am one day when I feel like my heart has grown old. So, you know, when you were speaking, in your response, I think I was really struck by the word that you used. You said conscience. And that was absolutely right
Hello at Calmingtalk and thank you for your response. And as you were speaking, I think the words that really struck me was value system in my, well, I think I mentioned ideologies and constructs like religion and society, but this is what it is. What you have mentioned adds to it the value system. And the value system is something that we as people are taught to us from childhood. It's what our parents teach us. It's what our communities teach us
Every time we try to move forward, it kind of pulls you back to the same place. Unless you really deal with it. Candy. Then you cut the rubber band and then you just release yourself and allow yourself to move forward. So thank you for sharing your thoughts and I highly, highly appreciate it
Hello, Boho babe. And oh, my God, you got me cracking up the whole time. You know, because it's such a unique perspective. You know, you literally presented me with such a unique perspective when it comes to guilt. I mean, you said that guilt is the duct tape of the emotional world. And that is something I have to remember because it's absolutely brilliant. I've never heard anything like it, but absolutely true
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Maurice Lekea
@malekea · 1:13
Most people don't. They have a difficulty pronouncing it. And the first person to ask the pronunciation of that. Thank you. I appreciate that. Again, thanks for always sharing meaningful conversation here on this platform, and I'll talk to you soon. Thank you, Candy. Bye