Do I Suck at Listening?
Now, this is amazing when the other person who's speaking requires your counsel. But the thing is most people speak with an intention to be heard. They just want someone to listen to them. And over time I began to understand that absolute great listeners are people who help you come to your own conclusions during the course of the conversation between the both of you. Now, this is a skill that psychologists and counselors are amazing at and this is why therapy is actually quite magical
Yuvraj Jain
@yjain60 · 2:36
Because I think ones who are able to listen properly and listen well to others and pay complete attention to someone when they're talking or sharing something or even sharing their sorrows or joys I think that's when our real human self is defined. But I'm glad you actually raised this question as will keep pondering over it in days to come. Thank you so much. Bye
The Bookbot Theory
@Bookbot · 2:18
We don't want to be told anything, we don't want any advice, we don't want any reactions, we don't want any questions, just here and listening is active participation. When I'm looking for suggestions, feedback, maybe questions, maybe thoughts that I've not thought about things and maybe some advice too
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatter · 5:00
But I'll tell you what goes on in my mind when we talk about listening skills. First of all, I think communication skills are not very common because it is not taught to us, first of all. And secondly, it is something that we don't even consciously think to develop until unless we are in a profession which requires speaking or listening
We spend less time talking and listening. It's just a thing that has happened with the growth in technology and different types of technology, whether it's phones, laptops, iPad, whatever it is. You know what I'm talking about, right? And the next interesting thing was how you rated yourself in terms of seven out of ten, I think you mentioned. It's just interesting how you perceive yourself and your growth as a person and that you're very self aware of what your skills are
And I think it requires a certain amount of empathy where you kind of feel what they are trying to say and to steer the conversation in that way. So I think that really added to listening. I didn't think about that aspect when it comes to listening. So that was really interesting. So, yeah, what is the intention behind the conversation?
But you have brought up something that's really interesting, that active listening. Right? Listening requires energy, and it also requires being in a state of mind where you are good in terms of your mental health as well, because these two things are essential. And that's what your response made me think. Like, oh, did not think of that. I didn't think of that in terms of energy, and I didn't think about in terms of whether your state of mind is