How do you LOVE someone? Welcome to the question of the week!
One thing we get wrong though is we tend to lament over loving someone. How can we love them better? How can they love us? How can we get to that next level in our relationship while leaving our relationship with ourselves in the dust? So how do you love someone? Taking the time, the healing process, the inner child work and shadow work. Just time with self to really begin to work on loving you, accepting you, acknowledging your presence, talking to yourself with respect
We'll go on vacation together. When do you want to take it public? Maybe you don't need to go Instagram official. But the point that I'm making here is your life does not begin and end with a partner. So how do you love someone? You love someone by allowing them to be who they are, respecting their space, and also continuing to work on yourself
Rocío (Ro) Christensen
@rocio · 3:32
It's almost like it stops involving you a little bit if you're only trying to make people happy, kind of, and not nurture the bond between you two and the bond with yourself. And I think that comes nicely to the point that you were talking about giving people space, because yeah, I do think there's, like, unreal portrayals of love and a lot of media of, like, first of all, like, falling. In love so easy and so fast
You're not, and you don't want to be anywhere I'm not. So we're going to do everything together. But what happens when we don't? What happens when a person needs to spend some time taking some classes for certification, for example? They've got to be gone several nights a week. Is the love less than you know
I also want to note that there's no right or wrong way to love. We know what's unlawful. We know what is abusive for the most part. And if you don't, we can continue to talk about that in this read. But I think we tend to believe that because movies show someone getting flowers, and that means, oh, I need to get flowers for my person or the wife who is doing the partner's laundry, for example
Most of the time I meet someone, I'm like, yeah, that's about two or three degrees of separation. So because we have this buffet, this free for all this, what's good for you is good for me. Great. Because we have that. It's like being in a jungle. And to really commit and to really love someone takes just a tad bit more work
But to love someone is to choose to love them, in spite of all the grand distractions and luxuries in our world. Simply put, choosing to love your person. And with that caveat, thank you so much for joining in, chiming in, listening, and I look forward to more replies. You all are awesome. Think I'm going to enjoy being here on Swell. I'm Dr. Joy. See you next time for the Question of the Week
And to make another point with me and my husband, I love him by cooking for him. I think that being in the kitchen is a form of love. We cook together and he is a really, really good cook. I mean, see, he was single his whole life until he married me, so he was very self sufficient and he can tear it up in the kitchen. I mean, he's really, really good
What about feeding and enjoying each other's company, putting something on the table that you can co eat? Right? The tag team eating and really enjoying something together with candlelight, with music, need to bring those kinds of things back. And so I just loved your message and think that you're pretty awesome and really, really appreciate the fact that you cook for your husband, that you think of that as a way to love. And I think there's nothing wrong with that