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Shahnaz Ahmed
@bookishpodcast · 1:57

Talking to you makes me happy

Does that imply going into the LGBTQIA zone or what am I missing? I mean, I'm just a little clueless because I've sent texts to my girlfriend saying, I'm really grateful you're my life, okay. I've never talking to you. Makes me happy, happy, happy. But I can see myself saying that, but not meaning anything other than talking to you makes me happy. Happy. What are your thoughts on that?

A commentary on a book and a text conversation within in? @bowie @NamelessJournal @loribpalmer

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@bowie
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 1:40

Hmmmmm

So I think it really depends on the larger context of the book. But just from what you shared, the first thing that it makes me think about is how there can be eat all different kinds of feelings and attractions. So for example, maybe they are just friends and there isn't any sexual attraction. But that doesn't mean there can't be romantic attraction emotionally. And I think those can be different things
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Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 0:05

❔📖❔

Also P. S. Are we allowed to know the name of this book
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Shahnaz Ahmed
@bookishpodcast · 1:47

Plain Bad Heroines Emily Danforth 😊 @bowie

But I was just kind of like, could it have been more powerful and or no, but I'm thinking about it with the context. There's a lot of subtlety to it, but part of me is going, well, it's just a text message. Are you really going there? I don't know. But anyway, no, I'm enjoying this book. It's a plain bad heroin. And so, Emily Danforth, there you go
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@AverageJoe
Average Joe
@AverageJoe · 2:07
I know I'm odd man out with all that. None of it ever looks cool to me ever. And choreography. Okay, now we're going off on another thing. Everybody's been doing the same choreographed routines for, like, 30 years now, every time I watch that stuff like a Britney Spears thing, that kind of music. It's the same thing. I don't know how people continue to be entertained by it. Anyway, back to what we were talking about
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Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 0:25

@bookishpodcast

Oh my gosh, Madam Coldheart. I cannot believe I forgot which exact audiobook you were listening to right now because it's not like you read a million books all the time. I'm just kidding. I did actually order my coffee copy the other day. I am getting the print copy because I'm very curious about the illustrations. So I will be sure to post about it once it arrives. And I'm really excited to talk to you about it
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@bowie
Bowie Rowan
@bowie · 2:20

@AverageJoe dying over here

I am very curious for you to test this. You're making a lot of assumptions here. You're assuming that none of your male friends would want you to braid their hair. And I just don't know if that's true, right? I feel like I need some social proof here, so maybe start out small by commenting on one of your dude friends Instagram photos and just say, hey, dude, looking pretty handsome. That feels really nice and friendly to me
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Shahnaz Ahmed
@bookishpodcast · 2:21

@AverageJoe @bowie

Joe, I got your message. I was actually at the school today and he really wanted to respond. And I did not have a moment. But your message today on Swell about dudes, like, I just don't go combing dude's hair or telling them they look pretty handsome. Oh, my gosh. Okay, man. Yeah, that's what made me laugh so much today. Thank you for the laugh. In the middle of school. I really needed it
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Shahnaz Ahmed
@bookishpodcast · 4:29

@bowie I think I stand corrected. 🤔

If I were to say to a guy because I am straight. So if I were to say to a guy, text, talking to you makes me happy. And a guy says, talking to you makes me happy. Also, I can kind of see where there's a little bit more nuance there because I would never text a talking to you makes me happy without potentially implying something. Yeah. See, I'm answering my own question
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@Ramya
Ramya V
@Ramya · 1:52
It makes me wonder how then would guys express their feelings if not through words, and what sort of expression of feelings is considered acceptable among guys? So rather than texting each other stuff like that, do they bump this or high five each other? How then do they appreciate another friend in their life? I don't know. I don't know. Men do communicate in very different ways
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Shahnaz Ahmed
@bookishpodcast · 0:57

@NamelessJournal @AverageJoe

So to answer your question, Ramia, how do men communicate via text? Right. So if I had to translate, you know, I am. What is what was the original thing? What is it happy? Talking to makes me happy. Talking to makes me happy. Also. So guys text to another guy. B RO. Right. Response from another guy. B. End of conversation. There you go. That's how guys communicate, man. It's so much shortened
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Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

Welcome to Swell!

@AverageJoe
Average Joe
@AverageJoe · 2:16
And then I'm looking at the other end of it, too. What if dude is, like, down for me to brush his hair and I'm not prepared for that kind of activity? You know what I'm saying? So now you're putting me in a really awkward situation where I need to tread lightly. I'm going to give this some thought, and then maybe I don't know. Maybe I'll do the whole screen record and film it and see how he responds to it
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