Bob Hutchins
@BobHutchins · 1:05
Your work is not your family
You. Here's a reminder for you. Your job is not where you find your family. Make friends, sure. But I advise people to be cautious of work environments that use the terms and language about, quote, family or loyalty and things like that. Look, healthy families don't demand performance and production, or else they kick you out or they don't pay you for your productive contribution to the family. A job is literally an exchange of services for money
Partially because of your brain's capacity, but partially because you have to make decisions around the skill sets that you're bringing in and the mindsets that you're bringing in and something it has to give. If those two things are of importance, at some point you have to start to make compromises
Bob Hutchins
@BobHutchins · 3:23
So to force that in a work situation is either, number one, naive or number two, manipulative. And it's either one of the two because it can't be accurate and it can't be healthy
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:38
Or am I now going to be excommunicated and disfellowshipped from the family because I've chosen to move on with my life? And so this is very good. And, yeah, I don't think the idea should be pushed now. I think it's possible to meet coworkers and form relationships that feel like family, but I don't think that an organizational culture should be quote unquote, work family. I don't think that is what we should call it at all
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:47
Or when people use the term at work, oh, this person is like my daughter, or this person is like my son. I say back, because it's been said to me. And I said, oh, well, I'm not your daughter, and I'm not like your daughter. And it's just really weird how people process those things. And I get it
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:26
We're always sort of on that promotion track to get that highest salary, so that our last three years really counts for a really great pension at retirement. So most of us are not really loyal to our jobs. We're dedicated, but we're always like applying for the next thing. And again, I work for government, so that family cushy feeling is probably not going to happen. And that's okay by me because that's not what I want. So thank you
Jordan Tepper
@JordanTepper · 4:31
And I was thinking, I need a new job. But it's such a corporate speak to try to keep people here by having that guilt. Like, you wouldn't do anything like that for your family. But you're right. This is a job. Like, you don't work for your family. Sometimes you might have to work hard to draw your boundaries with your family, but you have to work hard to draw your boundaries with your job as well
Arthur Benitez
@Arthur_Dante · 4:33
I think that actually, for this matter, TikTok has helped somewhat because some lawyers or some people that actually know the federal regulations upon working environments are now posting information about whether you should be asking for an Chappe. If you're working overtime regularly. Just specifically about these situations, they advise you to avoid them and to notice the red flags that are coming. So I think it's been improving but it is still happening, and it is a very problematic issue
Bob Hutchins
@BobHutchins · 2:49
And the sad thing is, many times managers and even leaders do this almost subconsciously. It's because it's the way it's always been done. And it's kind of like when you've been brought up and been in unhealthy relationships environments, work environments. You see this in marriages and unhealthy relationships where the abused person doesn't feel normal unless they're in an abusive situation. It's almost like it feels not right if they're not in an unhealthy situation