Blair Redmond
@blairbearing · 4:27
I know Self-Love isnt enough
Hello, swell Community. This is Blair baron here. And I just have a topic that is on my mind. It's kind of hard for me to talk about because I definitely feel like I'm the only one who struggles with this, but I know that I'm not. So by design, in this lifetime, I spent most of it alone. Even if I've been surrounded by people, I've always felt kind of alone because I think differently than most of the people around me
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:59
And so if I'm keeping that paramount, all of the things I've listed, then when they show up in a way that doesn't align with protecting me, then I make the decision as the gatekeeper, the level of access they have to me because it is that important for me to keep my cups full. And so this is why I say self love is enough. In my opinion
But what I realized since doing all this mental work and self reflection is that I do know me and I do love myself and I do see the things that I am that are beautiful and perfectly made to be what they are. And I do understand what I am capable of and what I am able to do. I understand those things. I have spent a lifetime, like you said, trying to be the better person, trying to be a better version of myself, I feel like
And the process of self love and evolution is beautiful but it is more so when it is seen and when it is shared. And when someone can say wow, I see you, I know you are amazing, you are beautiful and you add something to my life. The same way that I try to give that message to other people and let them know that they have value and that they add things to my life. That exchange is what makes us human beings
Blair Redmond
@blairbearing · 3:47
I've taken the time, I've done that. I've survived my drama. I've come out on the other side. I still see the glass as half full. I still am trying to walk in my light and do all these things. And then what? And then that's when it just comes to just being and living and accepting where you are and knowing that you have purpose and just continuing to walk in your light and not why me?
Blair Redmond
@blairbearing · 3:22
Even though this person can't give me everything I need, I can take care of me even though they can't. And I know that I ignored some red flags and I chose to believe someone who at the time, I didn't know was pathological. I don't automatically believe that everyone is going to be a liar and everyone is going to harm me, even though I've gone through harm and have dealt with liars
Blair Redmond
@blairbearing · 2:09
And then it just falls back to, I believe everyone deserves love. And I don't know, are we keeping it from ourselves? Like, what is going on here? But I don't know. I don't know the answers. It's just me having open, vulnerable conversations about something that just really had me thinking. So I appreciate this conversation