Brian Foreman
@BKFOREMAN69 · 4:41
Grieving life events
And somewhere along the line, I became the kind of the grief advocate where people would ask me questions, and I've always given the same answer, that there is no time clock on grief, there is no timetable, everyone grieves at a different pace, and that it's okay, it's okay if you never forget that grief. And I usually apply this to just not to minimize the grief of losing someone close to you. I recently watched the movie man called Otto with Tom Hanks
Carly D
@Astroality · 2:34
And I think that for me at least, that's the answer. I think you just go through a succession of many deaths yourself until you get to a point where it just doesn't affect you anymore
Brian Foreman
@BKFOREMAN69 · 2:47
And I was just talking to my therapist about of the swell that I posted about the little grief, and I'm having a yard sale on Saturday. And the person I'm grieving is someone who's alive, who is no longer part of my life and will most likely never be part of my life again. And I still have gifts. I still have reminders, and one of them was just a small item that I carried around for way too long
Carly D
@Astroality · 1:56
Another thing that you can do which is really helpful for trauma release is you can write that person a letter with everything that you want to say in it and actually burn it and watch it burn all the way till it's completely burnt out, until the embers and everything are burnt out, because that also releases you from the energy. And sometimes we just feel like, oh, man, I wish I had said this, or I wish I had done that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:47
Yeah, I do understand how it is to grieve something like that. And you still go through all the process of grief. You still go through the anger, the denial, the depression, the bargaining, the acceptance, all the five stages plus some you still go through all of that. Even when you're grieving life events, you still go through that same grieving process, and it hits you in waves
Carly D
@Astroality · 2:33
It's. I just really related to this so much that I wanted to take a second to just chime in because, man, oh, man, I don't know about you, but when you lose a church family, regardless of whatever the reason is, even if you know it's for your own good, it cuts so deep. I swear to you that betrayal when you lose the church family is just it almost almost feels like a little bit soul crushing
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:47
And, yeah, when you see your church member, former church members, the people that used to hug you every Sunday in church, and now they barely want to talk to you, and they're looking over their shoulder because they don't want nobody to see them talking to you in public, and it was a whole ordeal. It really was. It was terrible