We all have a story of different situations or marriages that we have been in, different friendships that we have been in. We all have a story. But can you identify the person in your life that can bear the weight of your story? I know some people will say, well, a listening ear is better than no ear at all. But is it really is? I guess it would depend on your experience. So in my experience has developed a belief that I should keep my story to myself
You. Hey, what's up, SIS? How you doing? Subscribe seven remind me a lot of things. This one here, like the foresight, you know, being able to kind of predict or, you know, see what's going to happen or at least prepare for it. You know, we have the safety pyramid and we always had to learn that where you had near misses, first AIDS, lost time, injuries and major injuries and then all the way up to a fatality
So, yeah, I'm not worried about the story and who's going to try to take it and use it as a weapon if I can take it and use it to heal, you know what I mean? And those type of people, they get theirs in the end anyway. And I'm not going to say I'm proud of it, but I've turned it into a positive, you know what I mean?
SOUL MIND
@BEAUTIFULSOULMIĀ Ā·Ā 1:56
I shouldn't stop sharing my story because one day it's going to be a person that appreciates the story. One day it's going to be a person that is empathetic towards my story and not use it as a weapon. That right there was the hug around my heart. I think the reason why I decided to stop sharing the story is because in my past experience, it hurt. And I just don't want to hurt. It's painful. It's crippling
I've been there before and highlighting books and all I'm doing is reading, highlighting stuff I want to say instead of stuff that I'm really living, and that's just humiliating. And that's when I had to couldn't even look in the mirror, you know what I mean? Because I was doing the opposite of what I said I was going to do. So I don't know, but this place is playing a part
SOUL MIND
@BEAUTIFULSOULMIĀ Ā·Ā 3:23
You also said that I reminded you of someone and that someone taught me from a book of poems that I was reading from her. And one that I remember because you struck a memory, is that all women need brothers, that the majority of women see a man liking him and thinking it has to be sexual, including myself. Some women make the mistake of thinking this, but it doesn't have to be
J.L. Beasley
@Her_SisuĀ Ā·Ā 4:58
So when we get into who on earth can bear the weight of my story, I have had to do some growing and I still have to do some growing because for me, it was logically in my mind the person should be my mother. And because my mother has not been able to for whatever has happened in her past to create her to be the woman she is and the impact, the way that she has mothered me specifically, I have had to do the work to let that go daily
And maybe that can help to identify who is I was going to say worthy. I don't know. Maybe that's the word I want of holding my stories, of carrying the quote unquote weight. So maybe this means then because I don't think wisdom comes quickly. I mean, I don't think you can use wisdom quickly necessarily. It comes from experience
SOUL MIND
@BEAUTIFULSOULMIĀ Ā·Ā 3:43
My relationships were with my husband, my relationship with my daughter. Thank goodness that my daughter did not experience some things that I experienced at a young age. I certainly tried to give her a better life, but I was in a very toxic marriage. I was remaining in that marriage because I know now I have a fear of abandonment. I had a fear of having a failed marriage
SOUL MIND
@BEAUTIFULSOULMIĀ Ā·Ā 3:12
You. Hi, good morning. And I totally agree with the reevaluating. When you share to reevaluate, you know, build a bond, you know, by sharing little things about yourself, smaller personal life stories and not these milestone or life changing event. Some maybe not the negative life changing ones, but the positive ones. Of course you can share, but that is something that can distinguish if you want to be that person's friend, if you want to pursue something with them as well
I can't put it out there, you know what I mean? Can't do it. But I can share the joy and tell you how I got through it, you know what I mean, and how rough it was. And it's not an eye, it's a we, and it's a hymn that really got me that got me through it. So I appreciate this. Well, I learned a lot in period of time and it was really nice, very nice
Berotte Jean berty
@Berty97Ā Ā·Ā 3:52
For instance, there is some bad stories or certain things I've been through in life that I will never share with a girlfriend or with a wife. That doesn't mean that I'm not feeling close enough to that people or my assessment has proven to me that person isn't qualified. It's just like I think certain stories needs to be shared with certain people based on the level of intimacy and based on what we think that people might do with that part of us
Berotte Jean berty
@Berty97Ā Ā·Ā 0:48
Hello, Hera. Thank you for replying and sharing your thoughts on this subject. And I can relate to your point because not everything needs to be shared. Sometimes it's better to keep things between us and God and that way we are not putting ourselves at risk of getting abused nor getting in a place that people or using our own experiences against us. Definitely. That's a good point. And thank you for sharing your thoughts again. Have a good one. Bye