Do it after Marriage!
In fact, on the contrary, I think it takes away certain freedoms from you. So I think parents should just let their girl child I'm specifically talking about girl child here
Nidhin George š·
@geo_rhymesĀ Ā·Ā 3:46
Hey, thank you so much for talking about this and bringing this topic to swell. I have heard this line so many times that it's not even funny anymore. And I wonder when parents or anyone says, do it after marriage or wait till you get married, what exactly is the message that being sent out that all your life choices or any of the matters in your personal life do not have as much value or are insignificant compared to your marriage?
rajat chakraborty
@trawell_castĀ Ā·Ā 5:00
So what happens is when we put too much of restriction on children, they find other ways and means to derive their freedom. And that is a dangerous situation. As a father myself, now I am a father of a daughter who is about to enter into an age where she will also expect, not demand maybe, but expect. She is a very humble girl, does not demand too much from me, but she will expect. She will never come to me and say ki papa merkasakarnasakar saktiyunkia
Swell Team
@SwellĀ Ā·Ā 0:15
rajat chakraborty
@trawell_castĀ Ā·Ā 4:30
And parents also somehow essay incidences say guzar chukehe joan bacho share kari because usko sunnake bhat shad Bhatari barriers parents or bachogi beachma tour jangi and it is better left unsaid and that is where the communication gaps come and that is where things do not work out in the way they should work. And secondly, as a father of a daughter, Machata, whom I was going independence in a chata, I want her to go out, enjoy herself, enjoy with her friends take a night out
Amrita Mishra
@AmyliciouesĀ Ā·Ā 5:00
Bus gap K current kafitanta kasa hotaiki parents pachokuni Samajpati bache parents konisamajpate both of their intention is right the kid is know that he or she is not going to do wrong thing. And in case if they do it also so then they are afraid to tell their parents mommy darting. So this is a gap because even my parents, they don't know, okay? Even my parents when I was child they don't know how to portray the world rightly for my upbringing. But somehow they managed it
Anisha Rodrigues
@anisharodriguesĀ Ā·Ā 4:39
The I can trust you with all my heart because I know you're a good child, but I don't trust the world enough to let you go outside anywhere, to let you have a lot of fun. And the thing is that parents are very protective in nature, especially my mom, she's really protective in nature. So she has her own fears and she has her own right as to being angry with me and not allowing me certain privileges
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatterĀ Ā·Ā 5:00
But then again they give me my space to breathe. They do not impose them on me and even if they do or they talk about something conventional, I put up very strong arguments. The lawyer in me just awakens and maybe my personality is also very strong so they get a little scared of me or what, I don't know. But they have raised me as a pretty independent woman and I'm extremely grateful. But parents should understand that children are not their fucking property
Himanshi Thakur
@GreyMatterĀ Ā·Ā 2:56
Bachpan say or asani that she comes from a very affluent background. No, a very humble background. But her parents made sure that she and her brother become really strong people. And they invested in their children in that sense, emotionally and by whatever values they put in them controlling life. I remember we went to this Vishaka Patnam excursion though weekend. Katha Dorinka and the girls, those went around. They literally had to have long conversations with their parents. Safety issue ratha I understand safety, security
Oraida Levi
@TalkswithOraidaĀ Ā·Ā 4:42
And again, a lot of parents, they have that control because you're in their home and if they take care of you, you don't really have a say. Even if you're an adult child, still living with your parents, there's rules right to follow. But if you were to live by yourself, you wouldn't want to wait. Certain things to do after marriage, because you need to be able to survive as an individual. And parents can be a security blanket
preethy uthup
@peeliĀ Ā·Ā 3:54
So according to me, that we are all new to this role. So whatever comes into our way, we do it our way. It can be right, it can be wrong. There are good, there are bad things in parenting, but overall I feel that most of the parents do a good job. That's my thing to it as a parent. So that's my take to it
Adarsh Rai
@TheDevilsHorseĀ Ā·Ā 4:45
I think boys and girls, they go through a very different phase, but the basis, the foundation of it is more or less similar in our scenario in our country scenario mostly the transition that happened after independence and so forth and so on. A lot of population was migrating towards cities, and there has to be a lot of connotation towards the geographic barriers, the inter amalgamation of cultures, diversities that was coming across so that was so much happening
Challa Sri Gouri
@challasrigouriĀ Ā·Ā 1:34
Hi. First of all, thank you so much for bringing up this topic. I don't know, but exactly the day before the day before you post this? Well, we had the same kind of discussion with my colleagues actually. So we were discussing something and one of my colleagues actually planned a tour with our friends and when she asked the permission in house so the answer from their parents was don't ask any such permissions now. Whatever you want to do, do it after marriage
Aditi Kapoor
@MyCuratedTalesĀ Ā·Ā 4:15
But I feel society which has carried out, carried on this trend and carried on such statements to be held, and the only way we can change such patterns is by believing in the girls. We need to understand that equality by large needs to be followed and we need to know our limitations only as gender specific. Other than that, I don't think that the girls of today can be stopped for anything. So, yeah, this is what I wanted to say
rajat chakraborty
@trawell_castĀ Ā·Ā 4:46
Yes, sometimes what happens is that a lot of parents, they have their own aspirations. And we are as a generation transitioning from being autocratic to liberal. And as we are changing ourselves, we also have switched to the point of just maybe having two children. Imagine having an environment in a home where there used to be four or five brothers, sisters, at the same time living. Nobody knows. The parents don't even know where the kids are going
Kaps A Perspective !!!!!
@kaps60539Ā Ā·Ā 5:00
And I do not allow her sleep out with friends who are boys also, because probably that age is tender. You have to understand the answer to life is the middle path. So probably what our parents was, we have changed that. We do give them sleepouts and night outs with their female friends. But when there are boys in a gathering, there's a big no. And there has to be a big no. There's nothing wrong in it
Yuvraj Jain
@yjain60Ā Ā·Ā 2:59
And at that point of time our parents are there to kind of protect us or probably safeguard their interest or our interest and suggest that this should be done probably at a certain age in time period. But I think you rightly pointed it out. Because when you reach a certain age, there are certain things that we were told that we should be doing it when we grow up isn't possible to actually do it then
Meenu Kaur
@tailored979Ā Ā·Ā 4:53
That husband or in law's place is such a place where it's only the freedom which reigns and it's here, the queen of the house. You may live the way which you want so badly. Were my dreams shattered when I came here to my in laws place after marriage. Because here there was not only restricted freedom, I mean, there was no space for freedom and restricted freedom to upchuri
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@andwemetĀ Ā·Ā 1:35
So if you allow them to do things, they would get to know and understand themselves better. And tomorrow, if they do wish to get married or be in a committed relationship, they will be better people in the sense of people with experience on different things and own. You know, it's a great topic and I think we at andwemet would really like to talk about this more. What do we mean by do it after marriage? Great topic