@arojasbastidas
Ana Rojas
@arojasbastidas · 2:07

When being belittled helps you become bigger

article image placeholderUploaded by @arojasbastidas
I'm no stranger to ridicule, especially on the Internet. After being on Instagram for well over ten years now, I definitely still get the occasional person who just sort of strolls in, tries to create chaos, and then ultimately run away. One of the things that I learned about this is just how interesting it is when people recognize a person's power and instead of praising it, admiring it, or trying to emulate it, they become intimidated by it or challenged by it

#advice #trolls #selfesteem

@dzakyem
Dzakye M
@dzakyem · 2:20

@arojasbastidas I see... Interestibg!

But she says that's really fun, because this becomes the stuff of my shows and they want to bother me, but actually they give me stuff to present on stage. So that's the same realization as you have, it seems. It can be at least interpreted or received differently there. Okay, thank you. Have a nice day. Greetings from Switzerland
@arojasbastidas
Ana Rojas
@arojasbastidas · 1:04

@dzakyem

I'm going to use this to create a conversation. And that probably just makes the person feel even less powerful because what better to feel powerful than to be able to control another person's action? But when that person takes something and says, actually, this is the action that I'm going to take instead is the ultimate comeback. I think so, yeah. Thank you so much for sharing. Have a wonderful day, too. Bye
@susisouljourney
Susi Lawson
@susisouljourney · 4:30
And it's something I've learned, we all learned throughout our life, is not to take people like that personal because they're projecting their downfalls, their struggles onto you in a very unhealthy way. I'll give you an example, a quick one. And it was when I was in high school, and I've always loved to write and paint and create ever since I was a kid. And I was really into writing in high school with the little magazine in high school
@dzakyem
Dzakye M
@dzakyem · 2:25

@susisouljourney Thank you for the anecdote!

I would like to do a kind of therapy one day and especially in relation to injustice. So just injustice is one of my topics. And you've obviously experienced injustice in that case, if not in others. I enjoy. I experience it with my parents. Ana. I keep telling myself I should write about it. When I write, I always know it doesn't go very far. But anyway, I've tried. I've already tried to do some stuff
@OnAcornBay
Shawna Kearsley
@OnAcornBay · 4:59

A Strive dor Excellende opportunity and Civility. #CuriosityFlex #BeTheBeacon

So I'm taking that control in my social media space, and I will lean into the nasty comment once and then I will gauge the response, and based on that, I will lean in again. I will block or unfollow. It seems often like a non emotional response, but it is the boundary. Boundaries are beautiful pathways to happiness and successful and engaging relationships. And when folks come in like that, it's this energy that is just, I'm coming to attack you
article image placeholderUploaded by @OnAcornBay
@Her_Sisu
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:45
I'm a whole entire author out here with a book for someone to treat, whether it's negatively or positively, and nonetheless, I am grateful. And that's what your swell cast reminded me of
@arojasbastidas
Ana Rojas
@arojasbastidas · 1:06

@Her_Sisu

You. I love how you pointed out that among these comments for a book you wrote, we tend to get distracted by those that haven't done any of those things but have an easy way of just coming in and trying to disrupt and then kind of running back out. Ana, I remember I had been doing triathlons, and someone asked me how long it took me to run the five k, and I told them my time, and they said, wow, that's really slow
0:00
0:00