Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:56
Ask Swell - was I wrong in saying I don't like you because I don't know you? 🤣🙃🤣
And I said, well, how is it that you really like me and you don't know me? And he was like, well, we've been texting. And so then he ended up calling me. And so he's like, well, what's the matter? Don't you like me? And I said, well, I'll be perfectly honest. No, I don't. I don't like you because I don't know you
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:14
He's looking. So there's a lot of men who are on these apps who are on there just trying to get where they can get, and he could have been that guy, or he could have been that one who was really looking, and he was willing to take a risk. Maybe he resonated with you. I will say this, that it took me a while to realize that my energy, my combo is contagious, so a lot of people like it
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:42
That's how women are. Women are smart, they're brilliant, they're intelligent. It's just that men, with all of our physical prowess, our weapons, our dominance, we tend to subjugate women. Women have always been the spoils of war. They always been the booty. But women are brilliant. And they will know. They'll figure it out. They'll know. Just show them that you like them. We have to stop thinking that women are not great thinkers
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 3:12
And most people, when they talk to me, most men, especially when they talk to me, they do like the conversation. They're like, man, you is so cool. We could talk about so many different topics. Like, I had one guy tell me, he was like, I've been on the phone with you for 2 hours and I think we've talked about every topic that you could talk about at some point. And he was like, that's just cool
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:58
I was like, I'm interested in getting to know you, but I don't know you well enough to say that I like you. And I was like, some people, they can just be like, I like you, and that's that. But that's not me. I have to get to know a person first. But I'm very interested in talking to you and getting to know you, and then maybe we can get there and I'm with you
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 3:57
I want to say that because often I can draw people in and we have good conversation, but it's just because I know what I want and I know what I'm going to deal with and not. And a lot of men don't like that part of it. They don't like that part of it and that this girl has a mind. Like, I can't trick her
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:33
But it seems like a lot of guys really do fall quick, or I don't think they're not all running game. A lot of them, that's just who they are. So it's a little scary. So I get you in that because you can have a couple of text conversations with a dude, maybe a phone call, and then he's like, are you the one? And you're like, whoa, saw your role. So I definitely feel you on that one
Luce Fonrose
@ilovelucee · 4:56
I'm just saying maybe that could have been his interpretation of it. I don't know. Maybe he thought you was going to be like, I like you too, and give him the same energy. But no, I don't think you were wrong at all. I just feel like a lot of times people also do things do too much too soon. Like, I had somebody slide into my dms the other day, and that person is attractive
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:50
Hey, sis. This was weird. It was weird as I was listening to it. The reason why I say it was weird was because you said that you don't know him well enough to say that you like him, but you, you took the time to chat with him during the day. Is that standard practice for people that you don't like? And then you gave him your number. Is that also standard practice for people you don't like?
javon johnson
@motoblanco · 2:28
He felt like he was vibing with you, but he didn't say it the right way. And your response back to him was a very realistic, rational, logical, I guess, somewhat cold response. Now, you responded back to him with cold logic and he didn't know how to respond back to it. Again. All he had to do was say, okay
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 0:46
Therefore, I'm gonna try to get to know you. Or I like you. Let's do it. You know what I'm saying? I don't know. I hate dating. This is why it took me so long to get remarried. Because people be on some stupid stuff. But anyway, I don't think it was you. I think it was just a matter of. He was not sure how to answer your question, therefore he didn't answer it
L A
@homosanity · 5:00
So there was something about the conversation that you were enjoying. Okay, so there's that. But it wasn't deep. So I get what you're saying, that it wasn't deep enough for you to say, like, I like you, that kind of thing. But I feel like with him calling you, that's very kind of, like, confrontational and kind of like, you got to like me now. Got to like me now. That would have thrown me
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 3:18
Hey, Keith. Yeah. The dating world is crazy. And, yeah, like, for me, when men get on the phone with me, they do like my vibe. And not even on the phone, even when we're texting, men often tell me that they like my vibe. They like my vibe, they like my vibe
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:46
I used to be like that. Like, oh, yeah, I like you. And I'm like, and then I had a guy ask me, and that's what started it. I had a guy ask me that. He was like, well, what do you like about me?
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:59
And I'm not just out here willy nilly looking for men to buy me dinner, so I'm dating a bunch of men to look for dinner. That's not me. I really am talking to people because I really want to see if there's a good enough vibe for me to carry on talking to them and possibly leading to a relationship. So, no, I'm not going to start it off with, yeah, I really like you, and I don't even know you
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:59
So it's a lot more that goes into it. Maybe it's weird for you because like I said, I don't know if you're actively dating or if you're actively talking to men. I don't know if you are or not. So maybe that's why it's weird for you. But you don't have to like somebody to be interested in them. You can just genuinely be interested in knowing, okay. More about the person to see if you do like them
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 1:40
And so I wanted to see what it would be like in person, to see if we could start building a friendship. And we met in person, and it was like an instant friendship started. Right? It's the same thing for me with men. I can text with you all day and not really get a good vibe or really get a good process of who you are, but it's not until I get on the phone with you and then I can start talking to you
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:57
And so for me, that would have never worked for me either. So I guess, in essence, he proved me right, because I don't know you well enough to say I like you. And I would never say I like somebody who didn't have good communication skills or good self control right over their emotions because there were so many other ways to handle that situation other than hanging up. And when I text him, he could have just texted me back and said, I'm not interested
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 2:32
Let me think about it. Let me formulate my answer, and then we'll both start laughing, and the guy will be like, oh, you crazy? And I'm like, no, for real. Seriously, though, I don't want to just say something because what you just said was, like, something just, for instance, not that me and Javon at Motoblanco is dating, but he said, in his response, he said it was cold
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:12
But that's what I was trying to say to him, is that I need to talk to you more and to get a better vibe of who you are, to see your energy better. I need to hear how you think about things, certain things. What are you looking for? What are you hoping to get from talking to me? You know what I mean? Are you hoping to just have a friend? You hoping to have a relationship? Like, what are we doing?
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:31
But, yeah, I hope everybody clicks that link because that's exactly when a man tells me he likes me and he really likes me. And not just that he likes me, but he really likes me. You don't know me enough to like me, let alone really like me, bro. You just don't. So what you liking? You liking that I have big breasts? You liking that I have pretty legs? What are you liking? What are you liking?
javon johnson
@motoblanco · 3:45
And I think most of us feel like we don't want to risk investing time in someone who maybe is not really vibing with us. So I think a lot of people will say, like, hey, I'm not going to take a chance on that. I'm going to pass. But it's a decision that we all have to make when we're in that situation. Because I remember some years ago, I went on a first date with this young lady. It was springtime
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:23
It's not just when they seem a little coarse. Every time you meet somebody, you have to ask yourself, do I want to take the chance to get to know this person, or do I just want to leave this alone and let them go their way? That's just what it is. And you have to ask yourself that question, and you really have to think about it