Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:56
Emotional scars, trauma, pain - when do we take responsibility to heal or do we just keep blaming parents and others?
We're building a relationship, but that's still not my mom and my dad that raised me, that know me. And although my dad and my mom didn't do everything correctly, there are some traumas that I have that God has been healing me from. It never was enough to cause me not to talk to them
Major Bunton
@Major_cause · 4:49
But another role that plays that I recognize is that some of us can be in denial. And we know that denial, there's so many layers of denial, we begin to blame, rationalize, justify, comparison, fight or flight, complete denial. Avoidance is so many levels of denial outside of the trauma that we're dealing with as well. So it's very difficult to come full circle, to stop for a minute, be aware that something's not right. Why do I feel this way?
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
If we're asked to forgive someone, sometimes a person may be reluctant to do so because to forgive someone, we misunderstand what the word means. And if we hear about someone forgiving someone else, especially for something traumatizing, we don't understand how they're able to forgive someone because we still don't quite understand what forgiveness means
L A
@homosanity · 4:58
There is not a lot of good places to go to to legitimately find legitimate ways to heal. So when you say that, does that person have access to a legitimate way to heal? And I'll just give you some examples of this and then talk about the flip side of that as well. So, very quickly, I've dealt with some trauma in my life. On one flip side of the coin, some of it was medical, which I did not even know
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:59
And so when I say, when do we take accountability and allow ourselves to move on? That's what I mean, because we can't allow other people to have control over our emotions. And for me, it was just that simple. When I heard her name, I would get angry. So I knew it was bad when I saw her, I would get angry
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
Anytime somebody dead, somebody can bring up somebody to you and that person is dead, and you still get mad. You still ball up in a ball and start crying. You still do all those things. Anytime that happens, you don't have control over yourself, somebody else controls you. So, yeah, for me, I can't see letting other people control me like that. And if you want more details on that, you can listen to my reply to Mo
L A
@homosanity · 0:32
You. Oh, I totally agree with you. If somebody isn't even beginning the journey of healing, that's a different story. And that's what I mean when I said that you can tell the difference between when somebody's actually really working on it and doing that journey or whether or not yeah, I agree on that. Absolutely