Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 3:22
#AskSwell Should married women hang out with Single women? Should married women take advice from Single Women or let them speak on their Husband?
And if they do hang out with single women, should married women take advice from or allow single women to comment on their marriage? I'd like to know what you all think
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:59
So I say all that to say this, even in these spaces in church, because I've heard this forever. Single don't hang out with married. It's like, oh my gosh. So single people are suddenly the scum of the earth. Like single people are suddenly just full of sin. And once you get married, you're not, right? Like respectfully, even with your niece, you said they decided to get married, right?
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
Hey, Andrea. Oh, you got a good one here, my dear sister. Okay, so I believe it's case by case, and here's why every person is different. It's on the married person. It's the married person's responsibility. For example, I'm not married. I've never been married before, but I've been in three monogamous relationships. I take monogamy very seriously, so I know I would take marriage very seriously. Here's the thing
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 3:30
And I just got finished mentioning in a swell how this generation it's a bunch of things in one generation. Every time you turn around, it's something else. And what you were saying, you're right. I mean, if a person is single, they could be single. Because, like you just said, they was probably married or in a relationship, and now they're not. And it doesn't mean it was their fault
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:47
So I'm not saying that women that are single can't hang out with married women. You can. There are things that you can do together, but there are clearly some things that you shouldn't be doing that a married woman shouldn't be doing with a single woman. And although, yeah, you can go to the like, I don't go to clubs and stuff no more. And sometimes when I would go to the club, I wasn't looking
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 3:38
I wouldn't put up with that if I was you. You don't have to take that. You could just be single. You could do bad all by yourself. Like, all of those type of things. I don't agree with those. I don't agree with people that talk like that, especially to a person who is married. Like I was telling Ange in my response to her, my sister talks to me, and I have other friends who are married, pretty much
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:18
And it seems like with these conversations that are happening on YouTube and other spaces, it's becoming even worse. It's even worse to be single than it was back in the don't believe that married women should stay away from single women at all. Why not teach other single why not teach single women that want to be married? Why not mentor them? Why not disciple them? Why not do that? I think a lot of married women don't want their single friends to marry
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:51
It's kind of like you're still an individual, you're still a woman, you still have an opinion. But single people shouldn't get into married people business. Well, you know what? You all bring it to us. So I just think that single women get a bad rap. They think that women are looking for single women are looking at their husbands because they want them. There are some bad apples. There's bad apples everywhere. But no, they're not
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:51
I said, So don't ruin your marriage or throw your marriage away because you think that something's out there which is not. Or we as single women have to learn how to balance our mood swings, our attitudes, our finances. I think sometimes married women are jealous of the fact that we are doing both I don't want to say both jobs, but we're handling multiple things at one time, and we're able to maintain and still maintain a friendship with you
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
They all are very happy in their marriages. I don't know anything about that. I don't know anything about women who are kind of upset that they're married or whatever. I don't know anything about that. So I can't make comments on that. The only reason why I brought it up is because that was a comment that a few people said made. And yes, I know that the world looks at women who are single in a negative light
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 1:14
But there's a lot of people who like being married and who love their spouse and who want to be with their spouse. I was hoping that some of the married people, some of the people who are actually married on here would actually comment. Maybe they still will later on and the conversation is still open. Like, I'm not closing the conversation. I like to hear diverse opinions. But, yeah, I thank everybody for responding and for giving their input on this conversation
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:47
But when I did hang out with people and I was married, I thought, yeah, this is going to cause confusion for me because single women want to go out, they're seeking a husband and I know that with my second husband that caused a major problem. A friend of mine and him, they ended up sleeping together and of course I was devastated, devastated to the point that I wanted to do something for real. For real
