Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
#AskSwell - What about the girls? Do they take on what they see from their Mom?
Or does she want to go the other way? What about the girls that grow up in the home and they see their mother being abused and they think, that's how it's supposed to be? He hits me because he loves me? Do they grow up abused, accepting abuse, living in abuse, or do they make a change? What about the girl that grows up and at her mom's house, she sees all kind of dysfunction and she has to raise her siblings
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:27
And she says she doesn't want kids. She doesn't want any kids. She wants to be at Jainty. And so I look at my two daughters and I see both sides of me, right? And so I did influence them? In some ways I did. And so it does beg the question, what about the girls? How are we influencing the girls as single mothers? There are dads, single dads who are raising girls. They call them dad, girl dads
And then somewhere along the line, just from living, they realize that it hurts when I hurt people or whatever, you know what I mean? Then they start becoming the man that they are, and they realize that some are close and some are not. But I never thought about how the girls develop. Do they copy, too? Do they have an idea of what a woman should do?
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Cheyonia Wade
@Chey · 0:16
You, girl. This topic is fire. I will definitely be back. And I'm gonna have to write this one out cause I don't want to shoot this one off the hip. Oh, I have so many thoughts. Thanks for bringing this up
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:55
But they do. They record all of it, and it influences them. Children are so easily influenced. It influences the way they think about relationships between men and women. And so, yes, if the mother is constantly bashing men, she's going to have a daughter that bashes men too. Or she's going to have a daughter that ends up rejecting her own mother because her mother tried to instill a culture of hatred in that family and in their daughters
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:03
So I do believe that kids are better off most of the time with just the dad versus just the mom, because the dad can provide that provision and protection, that stability for them. And a lot of times the mothers are taking the children through a lot of traumatic things as far as being homeless, as far as not having the resources they need
Cheyonia Wade
@Chey · 5:00
So I think I have a pretty good perspective. And I will say that girls do learn a lot from their mothers. And honestly, we never stop learning. We never stop learning from my parents. Thankfully, I had a grandmother. And my great grandmother who is still here, I still call her. And there are some things, especially when I'm stumped with parenting, I have to call her, and I'm like, I need help. And don't get me wrong
Cheyonia Wade
@Chey · 5:00
It. When you are Daddy's girl, you you do get special treatment. Girls run their dads. It's the cutest thing. I loved it growing up, but there was a lot that he didn't know, and I was actually, like I said, I was raised by a lot of different women. I had great teachers growing up, very strong teachers growing up
Cheyonia Wade
@Chey · 4:12
But, yeah, that's just to summarize it up, just to answer your question, yes, we do see a lot from our mothers. We learn a lot from our mother. But you do have to make a decision that the things that you see, is that what you want. And anything that's not what you want, you just say no to, and you don't accept it