So basically the ego facade which we all carry and we pretend that oh, I don't have it. So dealing with an alter ego in relationships is super challenging, frankly. And I had a session today wherein I was trying to make the person understand as to how one needs to navigate it. First and foremost, it's very important to understand the ramification also of it in a relationship. Having one at the cost of a relationship for the one you love is super bad
If you would have taken time and invested that much time in understanding who this person is at the core level, rather than just listening to what people talk about, then maybe you would have had a good bond, a connection which would had developed, matured, evolved in a way which would have helped two parties for a long commitment kind of a relationship
Surya V
@welcome28 · 1:30
Generally, attention seeking people have this more like egoistic tendencies and all. Anyway, it's really nice listening to this. Well, thank you. Also adding to it, I believe nature. I believe in nature 100%. It takes care of the ego naturally. That's why even when someone asks, I say that when your ego goes like a tree, nature has its own plan to cut it down. Don't worry. Just live with it, I sometimes say when people ask me
Hi, AMI. You're absolutely right. So it's very important for us to alter ego because sometimes what happens is we are not clear in the way we communicate to the people what we are going through, what are our emotions, how are we feeling at that particular moment and all. And because of our lack of proper communication, that goes to misunderstandings, misleadings and people analyze it or understand it in a different view and different perspectives
There are those who feel more free expressing themselves when they're anonymous. That allows them to use another name. In other cases. If I say the use of alter egos on the internet is given simply because it allows them to have a privacy that makes feel more comfortable or allows them to keep their professional life separate from their personal life. So I feel that at times alter ego is a good way to handle life. And lot of celebrities have been using it
aamna singh
@aamy · 1:17
So that is where, you know, the fine line comes in when it helps you to overcome your fears rather than just succumbing to them that's the one needs to be careful and balanced, I think. Exactly. The story is that it is about how we look at things. So we all have, like, a pair of eyes, right. But our view is very different. Our situation or circumstance could be very different
aamna singh
@aamy · 0:57
But it's imperative to remember that we need to separate our real self from the alter ego. That is what, basically, I was trying to address that. When you're not trying to hurt others, when you're not trying to escape your own problems, and you are taking it as a positive force in your life and not a negative one, that is where the entire difference lives. So great to hear from you and amazing. Well, you're also sharing, Gauri. God bless
aamna singh
@aamy · 1:26
The purpose, I think, of the alter ego can be only positive when you are clear about the reason of it existing, right? So that is where the difference lies. So whether you are able to trust somebody, whether you're able to talk to somebody about it to avoid the confusion, that's where I think you can escape from all the problems that possibly an alter ego can cause. So potential risks, of course, are there, and they're not fun
aamna singh
@aamy · 1:43
Hi, Myra. How are you? So good to hear from you. And you're absolutely right. The kind of time we spend in our relationships and the way we invest in a relationship makes huge lot of difference. But I feel that relationship can only flourish when there is no alter ego, when it's seen in the negative connotation. Because see, it's like when you're able to see yourself very authentically with somebody, that is where a deeper level of trust and a connection is built
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
It's possible to see events as part of a broader plan, rather than getting bogged down in the immediate feeling, and this has led to many of the researchers to wonder whether it could also improve elements of self control, like determination, making sure that we keep focused on our goals, and even in the face of any distraction. We could all boost our emotional regulation, self control and general poise by choosing to embody another personnel
What I was trying to say is even in the children the experiment was conducted and what various children were given and told that sometimes it will be helpful to think about their feelings if the task got too boring. Some were told to think am I working hard? While others were encouraged to think in third person is Hannah working hard? A third group were given an option to change persona entirely by inhabiting the role of their favorite fictional hero such as a Batman or the Dora the Explorer
aamna singh
@aamy · 2:03
So basically it gets a little mixed up. But what I get out of it is that there are different kinds of alter egos. And if I start delving into it, of course this particular swell would continue and continue. But the creative ego, the altercreative alter ego, is very different from the confident alter ego, right? Similarly, we go on, we go forward, we realize there's a nurturing one and there are many others. When we talk about psychology and we delve deeper
Aishani Chatterjee
@Aishani · 2:06
So, yeah, it's essential for so many things, for our well being, for the relationship, for the sake of the people with whom we interact and to provide them a safe space
aamna singh
@aamy · 1:17
That is where I think we kind of develop that so called alter ego and we are not ready to alter and bring about the changes in ourselves. We are not working on this concept of us. We are working on this idea of feeding us, like me, per se, in context. So, yeah, I think once that is addressed, I think we are able to reflect more within lots of changes start happening. So once we kind of look within changes, any which will change around us