I know what it's like when you have major surgery. You need all the help you can get, and of course, you don't want to bother people, but at the same time, you don't want to feel like you got to ask for the help. You just want people to reach out, especially if they already knew you were going to have surgery. I mean, dang, at least check to see, you know, do I need a ride home?
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:07
You gonna contact them. You gonna contact them and ask them, hey, man, what's up? How you doing? Oh, man, I know that hurt. What's up? Can you. You need something? You good? Somebody's gonna say something to you if they are your real friend. These guys were posing, so block them. So what? He don't owe them an explanation as to why he blocked them
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 5:00
Maybe they didn't even know he had surgery. I mean, there's a lot that's missing, but a lot of the common denominator is him. You mean to tell me that you either picked out four friends that care nothing about you? Or. Or are these four people just as in the dark about being blocked as. As they were about your surgery and people, and it's the only place he said, oh, I posted on social media. That's
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:57
I would clean the house and I would go back and he would already took the bags to the garbage, but he'd be gone. And I appreciate him so much. And I told him that. I thanked him. He was an angel. And then my dad was mentally ill, and then I was going through a divorce. My friend at the time, I told her, I need to take a break. Cause I need to focus on life. I was having all these anxiety attacks
Neena Maiya
@neenamaiya · 1:12
I don't know. There's a something I read in the book the plague by Camus. It stuck in my head when I was 18 years old. You never know how you will behave until you are in that situation, so nobody should judge that man, and I really hope he has people in his life who are helping him
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:26
Maybe they're doing some things that kept them from checking in, not because they didn't care, but simply because, you know, we believe that we are, like Angela said, we believe we're the center of our world, and so we want everybody else to believe we're the center of their world, too. And it's not the case. That's not the case at all. But I hear everything you're saying, and I thank you for your response
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:45
But, I mean, at the same time, I'm missing out on things because I don't see their posts. So, yeah, blocking people and then posting about them. I had this happen to me a couple of weeks ago. I posted an Instagram reel, and it was a pastor that was praying for people who are dealing with things like neurodivergence, autism spectrum disorders and stuff like that
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:10
Hey, Tanya, I wanted to reply to your reply because the more we talk, I just. I just. I just can't rock with this guy. And not saying he's wrong, but there's. There's pieces that's missing. Right. And, you know, what kind of back surgery? I mean, did he have a cyst removed from his back that was on his back? The skin
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:11
Hey, sis, that is a really good observation. It could be online friends, and online friends are not consistent. I mean, you can establish some good relationships with online friends, but like you say, due to the algorithm, it moves it around and it doesn't necessarily show you all the friends that you associate yourself with. I noticed that the other day. My only thing is, I say he can block whoever he wants to block in your life because it's your life
dee felton
@MrDee · 4:58
You know, one thing is friends and things like that, you know, we'll say, hey, let me know if you need something, depending on the situation, you know, if that person's gonna need something. And it took me a while to understand the whole thing with, you know, you'd have a death of a loved one, and everybody's just bringing over stuff like you see it in the movies, right? Everybody's bringing over casseroles and all of this stuff
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:01
At some point, you know, if your paths cross, if y'all work together or go to church together or whatever you do in the community together, at some point in time your paths will have to cross and, you know, you would have to talk to them. But if these are online friends that I don't know if they had like a group chat or if they were just four people on a, you know, that
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 0:46
Every answer I thought I have, I don't have right now. And so it's a different situation when you are in a circumstance where you said you would never do this, but now you're faced with it, and all of that, quote, unquote, logic goes out the window. So you are so right and so spot on with that. Thank you so much
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:32
But when you're a single person and you're doing it on your own, it's like, okay, we kind of need to be our own village. And so I offered to help her out, and she never took me up on it. She thanked me for offering, but never took me up on it
dee felton
@MrDee · 4:59
That's somebody, you know, to where this person feels like they're not alone, especially when you're going through things. And that's me being vulnerable. Speaking for myself, there were so many times I wanted people to reach out. There were so many times I was closed off in the house by myself, and, you know, times I was feeling like I was in a dark place. And a lot of time, that's when people, you know, do
yolanda cuyler
@Mslalacee47 · 1:58
You know, I had surgeries been a month ago because to me, when it comes to, like, sickness or money, you really see who your friends are when you're going through it, because I guess people don't want to help. So then when they don't check on you, it's like, okay, because I don't want him to ask me. I don't want her to ask me for something, for stuff. But even he didn't say he wanted help
Al Cosby
@Cosbyal4165 · 3:03
Or the prayer is that whatever happened, that your emotions are always in check. Because again, when you leave with your emotions, you're not always making the right decision. So I just wanted to say that thank you for letting me reply and as always, stay blessed and keep inspiring. Bye
Anthony Wills
@rev.wills · 2:55
And there is nothing wrong with having feminine characteristics or masculine characteristics and still being a man or woman. Um, so yes, it probably was feminine for him to do that, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. He is showing that he is a human being with complementary characteristics. All right, goodbye
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:19
Hey, Miss Yolanda, I agree with you. If you waited a month, and in that month, none of them reached out to you to even check in to see how did the surgery go? How's your recovery going then? I could understand being frustrated, because maybe that was him testing them, in a sense, to see, okay, who really cares about me? Because I shouldn't have to reach out first. You knew I had surgery
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:56
Whatever the case may be, that's what drove them to block that person instead of reaching out and letting them know how they feel. So we do have to be very careful to not act in an emotional state because what if he blocked one of his friends and then come to find out that friend died and that's why they didn't reach out to you because they're no longer here? Or what if you blocked that person and turns out they, too were going through their own serious situation?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:12
Hey, Rev. Yes. We have gotten to a point in this culture, in this society, where we judge certain actions as being masculine or feminine. I guess anything driven by emotion is feminine. And so a lot of people see him blocking his friends as being something driven by emotion. And so therefore, they're calling it a feminine act or feminine action. But men have feelings, too. Men have emotions, too
So this gentleman has the surgery with no problems, no complications that we know of. First act is to block your friends. Let's look at this. This sounds crazy. You're telling me that God, by way of the doctors, put you to sleep. By way of an anesthesiologist, they put you to sleep, you woke back up, and your first act is to block your friends. So as you said, he was moving like a female. I agree with that