Like, you will always be my dear friend. I care about you in the sense that it's platonic and that we've had a friendship over the years, but I'm not interested in you romantically. And it sucks to say that, but you have to be honest. And I appreciate when people are honest with me and their feelings as well. And over the last s***, it's probably been since 2015 or so that I met someone that I really liked
Braxxton Brown
@Br33zy · 3:33
Hey, Shaniqua, thank you for making this post. I can absolutely relate to your unrequited experiences. I've experienced unrequited love quite a bit. First time I experienced it was back in high school. I'm currently going through it now, but this time it's different for me because I have these feelings towards my best friend
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 4:03
I have known of people as swell who've had the issue where they're just falling in love with people who really just don't see them that way at all. And I guess it's even more compounded when there's intimacy between the two physically. But that's all it is for one party, it's just physical, whereas for the other party it's so much more. And yeah, that's the complications of relationships. But thanks again for sharing this
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Shaniqua Murrell
@wayuphigh · 2:29
Having a friend who I'm in close interaction with on a consistent basis, knowing I have these strong feelings and that they are not being reciprocated in that way. Because how I've had to manage my unrequited love experiences in the past, it's just eventually you have to get yourself to a place where you just kind of remove that person out of your life so that you're not constantly having to reckon with this issue
Shaniqua Murrell
@wayuphigh · 2:48
You have to kind of deal with the fact that it may be something that you are doing that's attracting these people. And I think I touched on that a little bit when I was saying that I've had a series of situations where I seem to be attracted to people who don't share the same feelings and it does suck with intimacy, but again, it's a me issue because that's something that I would have decided to have done
I felt like what I was putting in it, I wasn't getting out of it. And I even have one of those individuals to say I'm too sensitive. And I didn't really take it as I didn't get offended or defensive because I know this about myself. But what I did get offended about was that they using it. I felt like they were using that part as one of the reasons why they, like, not meet me halfway with the relationship
Shaniqua Murrell
@wayuphigh · 1:09
How long did it take for you to make the decision to move forward outside of that relationship once you realize you weren't getting out of it what you were putting into it?
Well, you know how it is when you are first getting family relationships. I would like to say that you are pursuing this person at the highest level. So there may be some things about this person that might be over it that might be exaggerated. Not saying that this this person lying or nothing, but they're doing whatever it takes to make the individual understand that they are the one that they are mutual for
