So now I really have to figure out what this day holds for the children and dependents that are depending on me to be there and further kind of setting fire to controlled chaos, if that's such a thing like controlled chaos burning. Yikes. What a visual. But staying in bed until whenever we felt like it. What does food times, feeding times mean? What are the kids going to do today? What are we going to do today as adults?
Rocío (Ro) Christensen
@rocio · 2:48
And the next month, maybe you're back in the routine and that lasts for more months, almost a year or something. But we were talking about how important it is, how important we felt it was to have to just have established the framework at all and to to have something to go back to, like a sort of a center of gravity in our lives, habits that we value and think are good and scheduling and organization. And I think right now I'm entering my routine era
Chelsea Hanawalt
@allowthesun · 1:58
And then how can I create more room for freedom or whatever is going to come up? But I do think it's important to have a routine. That's just been my experience. And also I get kind of bored and then feel stuck when I am too rigid in a routine. But when you bring kids into it I'm not a parent, but I am an educator, worked with the kids for a long time
Toby Tullis
@TobinT · 1:20
Thank you so much for your reply. And you know better than most parents as an educator how important routine is, and I agree 100%. I think that there's absolutely room for both. I don't think that you get to truly enjoy the magic of controlled chaos or any sort of chaos or random happenings without having a routine set in place. That routine allows you to open up any other free time towards whatever, whatever may be. But yes, awesome reply
Toby Tullis
@TobinT · 1:32
I don't believe that one, the true extent of one or the other doesn't exist without the other. So to truly understand and embrace controlled chaos, I think that we have to have some sort of routine and vice versa. I think if you have a routine, you can go out and truly enjoy controlled chaos when it happens. I love the idea of seasonal and from a monthly perspective, and I agree with that
Rocío (Ro) Christensen
@rocio · 1:24
I don't know if I'm explaining myself, but in a way, the absence of the chaos makes the chaos richer, and the absence of routine makes it really satisfying to come back to and really rewarding and fulfilling. And, yeah, I had a therapist once tell me I couldn't live my entire life in a roller coaster ride, which I was like, that sounds fun, let's do that. Why wouldn't I want that? But it's true. It's not realistic
This is super cool, super fun way to present it. I like your metaphors and analogies. I can definitely tell that you can communicate well with all ages. You've got to be a great parent to be able to whip out food analogies like that, I would say. But I would agree with the whole conversation thus far
Toby Tullis
@TobinT · 1:26
Brother. Thank you so much for your input. And you're chiming in on this conversation. I love that it stopped you and what you're doing and intrigued you enough to put your input in. I feel like we are kindred in the sense that we tell ourselves we love the routine because we do love the routine. We know that we're more productive, perhaps, in the routine, that we do better with routine