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Couch Session 4 - codependency

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Its that time again to join Leslie on the couch. Take your two minute gripes from this week, and let's talk about it

Comedy as catharsis

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@canadarachel@jenny_kneebone@seanfawaz@LordBakington@Sarahmullis

Hey, my Fantabulous guest this Week this Week. Let's talk about codependence. What are your thoughts on codependence? Let's start the conversation
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@Sarahmullis
Sarah Mullis
@Sarahmullis · 1:40

Pros and cons- codependency

Codependency. I'm a super independent person. So if I am co dependent on another person in any way, it must be a Super Super serious or special relationship, romantic or platonic. I think it's so hard for me to depend on other people just because I don't want to burden another person that. But I do think that if someone is depending on me, then I feel very flattered that they trust me
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@canadarachel
Rachel Canada
@canadarachel · 0:47

Codependent No More

Codependency. Gross. You know, I remember a long time ago, I worked with this woman and her husband had cheated on her with a girl that was 15 years younger than her and even looked like her from 15 years ago. It was quite bizarre, but it absolutely ruined her. She was so distraught, and she came into work one day with a book called Codependent No More. And I just remember thinking, F*** this. I am never getting married
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@TheComedyCouch
I'm so codependent that I almost got in a physical fistfight with the PTA over not giving my kid a prize in the walkathon competition, I got to take a good look at what's going on with my validation needs
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@seanfawaz
Sean Fawaz
@seanfawaz · 1:04

Codependency and Comedy go to together like Peanut Butter and Jelly

Well, I'd say codependency as a whole is horrible for somebody's mental health, like on a personal level, but at the same time, I feel like it can be a necessary evil to help somebody body grow into the person that they want to be. You know what I mean? Because a codependent relationship is what ultimately led me to try stand up in the first place. And yeah, you need sometimes that feeling of needing somebody versus wanting them
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@canadarachel
Rachel Canada
@canadarachel · 1:06

Mansplaining at 45k feet.

He micromanages and he mansplains and he's condescending any second. Guesses everything I say and my personality that goes over like a fart in Church. Overall, I'd say I went to some pretty Rad places. I got to spend a week in Puerto Rico. I went to Church and Caicos just general jet setting in the Islands. I got a pretty good Tan, but yeah, I think I'm happy to be home right now
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@jenny_kneebone
Jennifer Kneebone
@jenny_kneebone · 1:18

Codependency in myself & others

I like to joke that I'm in a codependent relationship with my cat. She's currently sleeping more feet away from me. Yeah, I think part of what makes me hesitant about jumping into any new relationships is how much my last one towed the line of code dependency in a way that really wasn't helpful for me as a person
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@TheComedyCouch
Rachel, be honest with us. Have you ever joined The Mile High Club with one of your pilots? This is a totally safe space
@canadarachel
Rachel Canada
@canadarachel · 0:19

Mile High, Party of 1

Oh, my God, no, I haven't. But if this guy were to give me a chance, if he didn't have a girlfriend, he was so in love with, I would 100% do it. But other master rating in the lab by yourself count as the Mile High club
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@LordBakington
Diego Neira
@LordBakington · 2:40

The importance of actually talking

Also, before this, I was, for all intents and purposes, a shut in. So it was a big deal for me to even go to his house. But as our relationship progressed, we started to see each other more often as one does. But because of his job being a bit of a commute from his house and his friends being even farther than that, it became a thing where he started prioritizing me over pretty much everything else. He would still go to work
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@Sarahmullis
Sarah Mullis
@Sarahmullis · 0:28

Couples that become one person @jenny_kneebone

Jenny, that's such a good point. I didn't even think about that. Have you noticed those couples? And I'm in a serious relationship, so I try to be conscious of this, but have you noticed those couples that say things like, like, okay, well, we feel this way or we do this and it's like, Wait, why are you talking about yourself like, you're one person. You're two different people
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@TheComedyCouch
I think after a while when you're married you lose all your friends am I wrong? Nobody wants to hang out with you when you're married
@jenny_kneebone
Jennifer Kneebone
@jenny_kneebone · 0:33

@Sarahmullis couple mode vs friend mode

Sarah Luckily, I don't have any couple friends that have reached that level of codependency yet, but I do have some friends that are couples that seem to struggle with white to be in couple mode versus friend mode. Like for example, serious discussions can happen in all of the time when you're by yourself and not in a limited time when I'm also there because it's awkward, which I just don't really get
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@LordBakington
Diego Neira
@LordBakington · 0:59

@TwoDopeMinutes Tl:dr marriage is a scam

So, yeah, I'm trying to push off marriage as far as possible because I'm not ready for that kind of social death quite yet. I'm just coming into myself
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@seanfawaz
Sean Fawaz
@seanfawaz · 0:48

Cat codependency @jenny_kneebone

It's always like when it's always like when I'm feeling like when I'm feeling I need somebody to cuddle with, and suddenly he does not in the mood and just goes away. It's like being in an abusive relationship, like having a cat. So I guess I was wrong in what I said earlier. I do know what that's it's like as of recently to be in a codependent relationship
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@Sarahmullis
Sarah Mullis
@Sarahmullis · 0:37

Not as interesting to married people anymore @TwoDopeMinutes

I'm not married, but I do feel like after a certain amount of time, my friends who are married definitely seem more desperate for friendships than my friends who are single. So maybe you're you're right, Leslie. But also, that being said, I feel like my married friends were way more interested in me when I was single than when I'm in a serious relationship. It's like I already know what happens in a relationship
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@jenny_kneebone
Jennifer Kneebone
@jenny_kneebone · 0:42

@seanfawaz when your cat runs from you...

And every time I approached her the hospital whole day to try and pet her, she ran away from me like ran every time. It's like, read the room. She's very cute right now, though, so I guess I forgive her
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@canadarachel
Rachel Canada
@canadarachel · 1:05

@LordBakington marriage 👎🏽

I'm sorry. Don't even get me started on sex. Like don't touch me when I'm eating, sleeping, walking to the car, walking through the hallway, carrying groceries, cooking, dinner fresh out of the shower. Don't even touch me while we're just hanging out on the couch. Literally Netflixing and chilling. No, you know what? I'm not interested in marriage
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@jenny_kneebone
Jennifer Kneebone
@jenny_kneebone · 0:25

@Sarahmullis failing to live vicariously

I am definitely tired of feeling like I am the like, amusement or, you know, the one that my partnered friends can live vicariously through because I always always get that vibe that they just want to, like, hear about my love life because it's like, interesting and exciting. But then there's never anything to hear about
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@LordBakington
Diego Neira
@LordBakington · 1:55

@canadarachel I've never related to anyone so hard!

But typically I loved being single looking back because I got to just do whatever I wanted and be my wife myself and not have to worry about another person in my space, which honestly, I might ask myself to move out at some point because there's just too many people in the house
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@canadarachel
Rachel Canada
@canadarachel · 0:27

Love Language @LordBakington

Did we just become best friends? Same, same, same on everything you just said, my friend, like, my love language is my love languages. Because I'm bilingual in that s***. Are receiving gifts and acts of service. So like, buy me a car and then go wash it. I'll be happy
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@LordBakington
Diego Neira
@LordBakington · 0:31

@canadarachel

I think it is official that you are like my new best friend. That was amazing. Oh, my goodness, gracious. Never in my life have I heard a phrase so accurately sum up my attitude towards relationships that is beautiful, full. My love languages are gift givings and acts of service. Buy me a car and then go wash it. That needs to be written down somewhere that needs to be put, like somewhere on a T shirt or a Billboard or something, because that is just gold
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@seanfawaz
Sean Fawaz
@seanfawaz · 0:45

@canadarachel @LordBakington

So truth is, Diego, I relate more to your boyfriend than I do to you. So great. Now this is stirring up some deep trauma, so I'll probably cry myself to sleep after this couch session is over. Hi
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@Sarahmullis
Sarah Mullis
@Sarahmullis · 0:56

@jenny_kneebone ✌️ single people are not here to entertain couples

Jenny. Yep, Yep, Yep. It is so annoying to feel like you're, like, in a f****** freak show or something when you talk to, I mean, any friend that that's condescending. And that just just acts like everything you do is so crazy or so wild. You're lighting the fire of the dumpster of your life or something. But especially with dating like that. Married friends think that they have figured it all out and they got married
@canadarachel
Rachel Canada
@canadarachel · 0:32

@

Jen I 100% feel you girl like just because my job affords me the luxury of traveling all over the place does not mean scrolling on Tinder and having hot, wild sex and going out on dates in every city I stop in. Literally nothing is going on in my life. I enjoy sitting at home with the cat and the dog, working on a cross stitch, watching a true crime documentary
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@Sarahmullis
Sarah Mullis
@Sarahmullis · 0:42

@canadarachel my space is my space ❤️

Rachel. Yes, girl. I am a murderNo right here for sure. A lot of good true crime, Doc. Yeah. And also, I'm very much so with you about the people invading my space with touch kind of thing. Even my boyfriend of three years. Bless his heart. He's super sweet. And I do love him. But when it's time for bed, it's time for bed. Like, I'm trying to sleep
@LordBakington
Diego Neira
@LordBakington · 1:08

@seanfawaz

Could you imagine this is the same woman who, when I got my first job at a government facility, I was an eligibility worker for a time, would pack my lunch and write a note for me. This is the same woman who nearly had a panic attack when I left home at 23 because she thought that I would die as soon as I walked out the door. So you might be right
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@jenny_kneebone
Jennifer Kneebone
@jenny_kneebone · 0:44

But who will cuddle with me?

I'm definitely the kind of person who needs my own space. I'm very particular about how I want things to be, especially in the kitchen, which is maybe a weird one, but I can't relate to not wanting to people to touch you. I'm a cuddle fiend. That's why it's so hard when my cat is always running away from me. That's like the one thing I miss the most from being in a relationship
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@seanfawaz
Sean Fawaz
@seanfawaz · 0:46

Question to @canadarachel @Sarahmullis

Hey, Sarah, Rachel, can you guys help me out with something? What is it with women and especially white women and their fascination with true crime docs and serial killer podcasts and s*** like that? Like my theory, personally, is that white women all secretly have a murder fantasy, not in the sense that they'd want a man to murder them. Not at all
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@LordBakington
Diego Neira
@LordBakington · 0:39

@seanfawaz

Okay. So I had the exact same question about white women and their affinity for true crime podcasts. Like, not that there's anything white or female about true crime and that other people outside of that can't like true crime as well
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@canadarachel
Rachel Canada
@canadarachel · 0:45

@seanfawaz @LordBakington

Okay. So I think our fascination with true crime is at least me. Personally, I grew up watching Murder, she wrote with my Nana rescue Matlock. And then also, as a female, I was always told by walk with in a group. Don't go in random bands with strangers, just everything about men being scary. So I think it's like all of my mom's warning name coming true. And I don't know the fascination I couldn't tell you
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@Sarahmullis
Sarah Mullis
@Sarahmullis · 2:46

@seanfawaz ladies love true crime because we are studying up 😜

And I'm not saying that they're necessarily more actual male murderers than women. I'm saying that more men have gotten caught. I think more men, they've gotten sloppy. And maybe it's because they haven't been listening to true crime dogs. You know what I'm saying in terms of the sexual fetish that I do not have. But I do know what you mean about white women loving a good true crime Doc in terms of some weird sexual fantasy that they have
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@seanfawaz
Sean Fawaz
@seanfawaz · 0:27

@Sarahmullis @canadarachel

Okay. So that's interesting. So really, the fascination comes from you wanting to educate yourself and also cover up your own tracks. Thank you for enlightening me on that. Sarah. I feel like I learned something new, and it also validates that all women want is just an equal opportunity and anything men can do, you all would like to do better, including murder. So I respect that
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@Sarahmullis
Sarah Mullis
@Sarahmullis · 1:18

@LordBakington why they casting sexy serial killers 🧐

When Zach Efron played Ted Bundy, he was known for being very charming and very good looking. And that was something that he really took advantage of. I don't think the actual Ted Bundy was near as attractive as Zac Efron. And certainly the way that Zac Efron was in that movie. But if you read up on Ted Bundy, all of these women are just like, yeah, he was just so attractive and blah, blah, blah and all this stuff
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@Swell
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15

Welcome to Swell!

@TheComedyCouch
Who are we kidding? Sarah and Rachel, we always go for the bad boy murderer. Those guys are fun. Come on. Yes. Ted Bundy was gorgeous. He was like A. Jfk. Jr. Type. And most serial killers are probably really great in bed. Let's just face it. I'm not trying to be weird about it, but they're into sex, right? The more you practice something, the better you get
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Deborah Pardes
@DBPardes · 0:45

Marathon of I need my spaceships

And we're going to hug it out because love is good. Connection is even better. Swell is pretty good. We'll have a scratch and sniff and hug version at some point, thanks to this incredible riff, it was wonderful
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