True or False The women controls the bedroom
And I'm feeling like you're trying to hurt me, you know what I mean? Or I'm feeling like you're playing with my emotions or something. I guess we all know that people probably try to use sex as the weapon. I think it's not cool, but I want your thoughts on it. And does the woman control that part of the relationship and also accept responsibility for it to be a good steward? Of course. What are your thoughts?
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:58
And then this brother turned around, turned his back to me, pulled the blanket up over his shoulders and went to sleep. So I say all this to say, I know what men are talking about. I know how that rejection from your spouse feels because I received it. And no, we don't often hear about it, so nobody talks about it. There are other women out there. Because I found a group of women, thank God, because I felt like it was all me
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 3:08
Once again, very interesting. Swell. Okay, who controls the bedroom? People will say that women control the bedroom, but I don't know if that's always true. Okay, let me use myself as an example. Lord Jesus, I don't initiate, not really, because once again, it goes back to self esteem and shyness. And I just think it's more romantic if they initiate. And then, of course, I'm going to participate and put my all into it
Carly D
@Astroality · 2:38
I think both people should be having ideas and bring new ideas and whatever to the to the table. And I think that people who have learned to use that as a manipulation tactic, it's because they're in a really rough place themselves, personally. And I just think that that actually creates even more problems. I think it's the start and the base of a giant whirlpool of problems and breakdown in every relationship. I think that it should be something that happens on the regular
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
And that was one of the things after we broke up that he said he wished I had, because that was sexy to him. For me to say, I want you right, or for me to start kissing on him and trying to get him in the mood, that was sexy to him. But I wasn't as comfortable with my body, so I did it right. But even though I wasn't as comfortable with my body then, I still never denied him
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 3:18
And there's not a medical reason why you haven't given your husband any sex, then if he go out and do something, then that's on you. That's on you. Because men need sex. They do. Women need sex. We both need sex. God created sex for marriage. And so if he can't be with his wife and he got a need and you just trying to be funny, you just trying to be mean, and he go out, why are you mad?
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 1:17
It's just that I'm at work right now, and my background is not too great. And when I leave from here, I got to go to my other job. But the background will be a lot more quieter. It'd be nice and quiet, and then I could reply this. Well, here is something else. You got a good one here, brother. So anyway, you dropped it quite a few hours ago
And when I say aunties, for those that don't know, that can mean your mom's best friend or your mom's friends don't got to be your mom's sister or your dad's sister. And I'm telling you like, that they kind of came from where you guys are coming from. And one of them looked at me and she said, she's going to be looking up longer than you looking down
And but if we're talking the ideal, if we're talking how we'd like to see things, it's two healthy people who can love self as well as love one another and the abundance and overflowing from it. I don't know. I don't like to spend time either friendship or romance with anybody who's going to weaponize anything against me or want to control anything or constrain or control me or any of those things. And so I detect those things, I'm out
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 5:00
And it doesn't matter how things go. Even if a man get an attitude and force himself on a woman, he can impose himself. It doesn't mean he controls the bedroom. He may control through his physical prowess, but she has what he wants. She controls the bedroom. It's just that he can't control himself. That's the problem. And I think we have to find a better way on
You know, some were pretty much, you know, this is duty for or this is my duty. And some were, you know, basically explaining how this can happen if you do this, that. And the third, you know, the then, you know, the neophyte Versant came in and started talking about a connection that I've always believed in and that I've always thought that I could have a real spiritual connection
When you've known somebody so long or when you've met somebody and you grew with them so well, and you know that this is something, you know what I mean? Sometimes the solution is so easy. It's like, how do you stay in a relationship like that? You don't leave and you keep working. You don't leave. You keep working until the pain is so great that you can't even stand it no more
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
So when you make a woman feel comfortable and sex, she has to want that, though, from you. She has to want it from you. And it sounds like in your situation, maybe she didn't, but once you get this next one and she
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 1:21
And then you're going to get to see all of this and it's going to be wonderful for you and she ain't going to want to leave you because from what we hear on here, you're a very vulnerable man. You are able to express your emotions. You want to please your wife, your woman. You want to be the man that they can look up to and respect and honor. And so, yeah, all that stuff, you should be good, you'll be good
Just like everything else when it comes to relationships, seeing what you can put in more than you can get out. You know what I mean? And if both people are giving I don't know, I guess a problem I guess everybody worries so much about getting burnt, what are you doing? I don't want to give and get hurt and sometimes it's just you know what, I'm throwing caution to the wind when the opportunity comes back up again because I know I didn't die