Just something I've been wondering about as I engage on Swell and all these other places. Like, what is it that frees us in these sites and spaces that maybe we don't have the freedom in our day to day relationships. And maybe you do. This is just an observational thought. And I'd be really curious to know what you think. Have an amazing night or morning wherever you are in the world. I wish you the best
Enfinit Evolushun
@Enfinit · 4:46
There's only a few negatives and a lot of positives on the stranger side. And my friendship and my friends and my family, the close people, they tend to give you the same advice, never any fresh new advice. What else? They're too familiar. That word is the biggest word, familiarity. And they regularize you. Other people. New people can see the greatness in you. They don't see the flaws. They don't see a lot of the things over the years
diya sabapathy
@diyasabs · 1:56
But if I were to guess, I think that's maybe because with people not really knowing who you are and you not knowing who they are, you have nothing to worry about about them judging or about what they might think or anything like that
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Yet again, another incredible swell. And yes, I do empathize with this, I believe, as part of the human condition we battle with being vulnerable based on our relative trauma. The security blanket is a traumatic boundary that aims to protect self by manipulating our perceptions of oneself. What I mean is a stranger doesn't know the same way
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 0:38
Thank you, Erin. As always, you bring that fresh water to the conversation. And I think you're absolutely correct about the accountability piece. I didn't even think about that. We don't. But we don't owe these people anything, these strangers, and they certainly don't owe us anything. And they have no skin in the game to follow us up on our call us on our BS or whatever the case may be
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 0:26
Thank you, dear. 100% agree with you. These neutral stranger bodies. They are super objective. They don't have any past pain or disappointment associated with us. So they can just take us at our word and they give us the benefit of the doubt. They offer us Grace. Thank you so much for jumping in on the conversation and bringing it up
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 0:50
Thank you, Infinite, for joining in as always. And what I really like about what he said is the expectation of being a certain way that we have with our friends, that we have these defined sort of archetypal identities that we can't really shed because like you said, they'll clown you or think you're being dramatic. But this is like actually you. But they just expect that you see you being a certain way and definitely with strangers. We don't have to do that
Camille Smith
@meelee · 0:51
Santia, I don't know where you come up with these from, because it just amazes me every time I listen, I listen to this, and I'm like, we really do do that. Then I got a little uncomfortable with the word stranger. And after listening to the responses, I agree with what Aaron says about the accountability, and I think it's partially due to judgment as well. I don't know if I talk to strangers
Sontaia Briggs
@PKBriggs · 0:44
Hey, Milie, thank you for responding and jumping on to the vibe. I think you do know the answer. And I would venture to say, not strange your strangers. In your words, with people who don't know me, which are strangers. But no, I feel you're like self included. Like, I'm not asking a question outside of the experience. I have found myself talking to individual individuals. I meet in places that I do not know