How to Argue pt 1
When you have conflict with someone, you'll typically want to start by saying everything that they did to you and all of the reasons why you are now in conflict with them. And it's easy to remember that I experienced something bad in this moment. It's harder to remember that they're also reacting to me, and so they also have a piece they want to say
Rocío (Ro) Christensen
@rocio · 1:25
Wow. I love this. I've never actually thought about it like, this exact way. Thinking about the connection about why you're having this conversation at all, that's. That's super helpful, I feel, because it immediately brings the other person into. Into the space with you, and it acknowledges that it's a. It's a conversation. It's something that's happening between two people. It's not something that you're doing unto another person
Ava K
@Learningtobeme · 4:24
So I need to make sure both those people are at the same loving aspect, trying to figure out and be on my side, on my well being and trying to let me know that they love me, but this is their way of saying it. So when I am actually calm and understanding towards my mother, why can't I have the same understanding towards my spouse or a partner?