And the reason why I say this is because I noticed a bit of a pattern of people that were using these phrases. I noticed that people who really didn't have dating prospects or who had not been successful in dating or successful in relationships were the main ones screaming that they were happily single. And so I started to wonder, are people who are kind of giving up or quitting a little bit the ones that have decided, you know what, I'm just going to be happily single
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:20
And so, yeah, happily single, I'm not quite sure about that. And even people trying to teach folks how to be happily single, I'm not even filling that either. I think that you should learn to be content. Meaning that. Okay, God, you have me here, and I'm going to make the most of this, whatever you want me to do
Brian Foreman
@BKFOREMAN69 · 4:52
Ms. Coles, I had to reply to this. I've been slacking, but I had to reply to this as someone who has been married multiple times and dating off and on and now been basically not married for the last five years. Now, I want to let you in on a little something here. Those who say they're happily single, you figured it out. I don't want to say they're terrible at relationships
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:59
So, yeah, there are aspects of being single I like. But there's also aspects of single I don't like. And I always make sure I make that perfectly clear. So, yeah, thank you for inviting
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 2:14
I'm like, I don't think it takes a strong person to be single. You only have to answer to yourself when you get into relationship. Now you are doing that delicate balance of give and take with a whole nother human being, with all they come with. Whatever health issues, whatever flaws, whatever things that get on your nerves versus things you really love about them. That takes work. Just making yourself dinner and going bed by yourself every night, that's easy in my opinion
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:50
Whether it's your look, whether it's your attitude, that's probably most likely what's happening. And as I mentioned in the reply to Brian, a lot of folks, you're not easy to live with, you're not easy to get along with. So it's easy you to stay single because nobody checks you but you. But you get into a relationship, old boy or old girl is going to check you on some things
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:48
And no, I want to still be able to do crazy stuff while I'm younger and married. I want to be able to have fun. I don't want us both to get married. And we got health issues and things and we're both just basically looking after one another. We're not even able to do a lot with each other even though we're married. I don't want that. Now, older people getting married, like you said with Pastor Tanya Evans, he did remarry
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:36
And you're right about the happily single people who don't have someone to show them who they are, because I read a book one time, and the book said that marriage is like a mirror. It's like someone holding up a mirror to you every day. You see yourself every day because this person shows you who you are
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:44
You're not going to see your insecurities, you're not going to see your weaknesses and the areas where you need to grow as a person. Like I was telling Angela, I read a book that said that marriage is like a mirror. It's someone holding up a mirror to you all day, every day. And if you're single, you don't have that. If you're living alone, you don't have that. You don't have anyone holding up that mirror to you
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:09
And so I guess she has that quote unquote gift of singleness that I know I don't have. But she's also in a single state that I believe that God has to fashion you for. She's in that single state that people claim that all of us christian singles should be in, but all of us aren't built like that. I know I'm not built like that. I'm not built to the point where if I never get married, I'm totally fine
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:48
And I'm not saying take your relationship away from the Lord, but, yeah, like everything you said, it's a lot to be held accountable for and keeping people super single. I think a lot of women only want this man that walks into the church with his Bible out, ready to grab the mic. What about the brother that he's not called to preach? He's not called the pastor
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 4:28
So now, when you mentioned single, saved, and satisfied, and you also mentioned it in another way, that relates more to the secular world, and you said that this is more of a woman thing because women are more with the empowerment thing because men don't usually make that type of declaration. And you know what? You're right. I agree with you 1000%
Moe Johnson
@NeophyteSavant · 2:56
You mentioned that someone, guy that I guess you didn't even know, and he spent $200 to buy products sometimes that's just how it is. So I can touch on that all day. I have a lot of experience in that area, and I've seen other people with businesses and family and friends always want to come with a handout. When you're doing things in the hood, they always complaining