And so I think it's worth saying that if you marry that boring, peaceful guy, the guy that likes to sit on the front porch and watch the traffic, the guy that doesn't feel like we need to be traveling every other weekend and going here and going there and doing this and doing that, because as we get older, we start to value peace. I value peace at 46, much more than I ever did at 26. I love peace at this age
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:39
I mean, they would spend time together talk on the phone together. So I didn't grow up seeing in law issues with my family on either side. You know, my mom's family embraced my dad. My dad's family embraced my mom. We didn't grow up seeing bickering and arguing and disagreeing, and we don't get along with those in laws, and we didn't see that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:42
And I think that, you know, in today's culture, we value privacy much more than in our grandparents culture, where family, multi generational families live together and all of that. My mom grew up in the same household with her grandma and great grandma, and it was just normal, you know, but now we live in a time where people value personal space and value privacy
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 2:43
My husband and I, we don't have a boring life, thank goodness, but it is a quiet life, and I like it, and he respects me and my boundaries and such. But everything that you've mentioned are very valid points because some things don't present themselves until the person is married. So I don't want to make this swell response long, so I'll do a couple more responses
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 3:42
I hate to call it that, but when you're living with someone for the rest of your life, or hopefully, you know, for the rest of your life, you just have to check in with these things. And so, of course, there are going to be some things that we, either as women, that we regret or just some things that we haven't really thought about. I have no regrets about my marriage. However, there are some things that I think about
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 2:58
I have a mom now. I will respect you as my mother in law, but you don't dictate to me what to do. And this is my marriage. You don't get to say. So it's not being rude, it's just keeping distance, not living around your in laws, great thing, because they will stop by all the time, believe me. So there's so many factors to include
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 1:01
Hey, Evelyn, I just listened to your response, and I second that as well. My inlaws, again, they're great. My mother in law, unfortunately, passed away in 2014. But I'm the type of person where I'm very reserved anyway, in a way
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 0:42
But as far as me and you like kicking it, absolutely not. I'm so busy. I'm painting my nails. I'm doing something, anything. But no, I'm not doing that. And it's not because I don't like her. It's just I know that there is a line that you should not cross, and I've had practice, so I know. So, yes, I'm right with
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:44
Like, I don't care if people know what I did. Some moments you just have to learn to keep for yourself. I'm a firm believer of that. Some moments you just have to learn to keep for yourself. And so there are certain aspects of my trip that I didn't feel like sharing with the general public. I wanted to keep those moments for me
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:46
Like, they should want you to leave and cleave, they shouldn't want you to take them with you through every part of your life. Now, when it comes to things like having children, children graduating our anniversary, different things like that, there's nothing wrong with having family a part of that. Birthdays, all of that, there's nothing wrong with having family a part of that stuff. But I don't think that family needs to be at the house every weekend having dinner