Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:52
Twitter Chronicles: Woman Asks Black Men to Be Mentors and Black Men Clap Back! 😳
It was for children who didn't have these opportunities. Maybe they did come from a single parent home or whatever the situation was. They didn't have that mentor, that person to take them under their wing. And so the big brother big sisters club provided that opportunity. But the brothers in these comments, they ain't trying to be nobody's big brother
Ferris Moore
@FeMotivationz · 4:12
But I just wanted to send you this to respond to it and to let you know that there are men out here who have a passion and have love for children like that, and I'm one of them, and there are a lot more like me. We just are covered up by the foolishness that you saw on the post. So I want to apologize for that. And I just wanted to come on and share these thoughts with you
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 4:01
So mentorship is important, and it's good. The problem is when you mention words like responsibility, father, mentorship, these are key trigger words for clowns. They don't want to take responsibility for anything. And I bet you many of them left their own family's destitute and in poverty. Okay? But they're using their crusty fingers to go online and to say, shame on the mother, and where is the daddy at? These are not solutions
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:02
And whether it's a teacher, whether it's a coach or an assigned mentor, whether it's somebody in the church, they remember the people that poured into them, that helped them to help to shape who they are today. And I think that's extremely important. But single motherhood has nothing to do with a child needing a mentor, because a mentor is not a father necessarily. They can be a father figure to a child, but that's not really the role of a mentor
Ferris Moore
@FeMotivationz · 4:34
But a lot of people are just very selfish with their time, their emotions, their wisdom, their knowledge, their love, all of those type of things. And some of them are selfish with that because they've always been in a situation where people were selfish with them concerning that same area. But that, for me, not having a father made me want to be more of a father figure, more of a mentor
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:56
That's one thing. Two men today do have a lot on their plate. And honestly, if you have a man who is very focused on having kids. Maybe he wanted two or three kids with one woman. I think it's a lot to assume that he's now supposed to mentor every other kid in the neighborhood when honestly, he wanted a small number of kids or a set number of kids so that he could put his focus on them
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 0:57
It's definitely needed, but it's only needed from those who have the heart. If they ain't got the heart, then they ain't got no business messing. But just to call out any regular man and say, he's supposed to do this, he has to do this. I think that's totally unfair if he didn't sign up for it. So those are my thoughts. Thank you
And what I appreciate from his responses to your post is that we all have free will, basically, and he represents the free will of men who embrace humility and the joy of responsibility, of sharing the knowledge and ability to impart value to people who are younger in another generation. Even because that knowledge is empowering, what he offers is empowering. And as a mentor, what I would like to think I did was to offer knowledge and information
Lolita Eaddy
@Woodiemountain · 1:22
Even your mother, you can't do it all, all the time alone, if she's alone. It's just sad. We really need help it people out there with thoughts like that, it's just crazy. It's a sad world we live in today, but as long as it's not everybody, it's just that we just need more people to come together to help. And the people that don't want to help, then just let them be where they want to be
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:42
No, it's not their fault that their mom, the child's mom, chose to have a child out of wedlock. But at the same time, we tend to complain about a lot of things, but we don't want to be the change agent. And I always say, if you can tear it down, then you need to be able to build it back up. We're very good at pointing out problems and issues with people but we're not good at bringing solutions
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:39
Okay, well, if I mentor this kid, then what's in it for me? I mean, obviously, the child can't give you anything but the satisfaction of drawing from your wisdom, but the child can't give you anything. I don't look at it as transactional. I look at it as a return on investment. I'm investing in this child. What is the return on that?
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:11
And I know that's what hip hop music tries to push, that everybody's selling drugs, that everybody's in and out of prison, that everybody is smashing two or three, four different women a night, and spending. Spending. Spending all this money on liquor and drugs and everything else. It's like, that's what the music tries to promote. And so why not bring our children around?
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:03
I'll get rid of the man, the baby daddy, the husband, the boyfriend, because he get on my nerves, not realizing we have a kid that, you know what? They're going to need that male mentorship. So it's almost like sometimes not all the times, of course, I don't need no man. We carelessly give birth, I'm a divorce him because I'm not happy
Cheyonia Wade
@Chey · 5:00
But those are just some of the ways of just putting mentorship, putting positive role models out there in front of them. And there was a point in time when I was staying home that I didn't feel like what I was showing my daughters. I'm like, this is not what I want for you. And nothing to stay at home moms. I was still working from home, but it wasn't what I had envisioned for the future for me
Cheyonia Wade
@Chey · 4:12
And I get it, but I don't get it. And like I said, these babies are the future. The same way we were the future when our parents were coming up and our grandparents. What type of world do you want to live in? Is that the type of world that they want to live in? So they just want to live in this. Take, take. I don't care about the next man's society because you know what that looks like?
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 0:44
You. Hey Che, I agree with you 1000%. The right men will respond to the call of mentor. The guys responses on social media did not surprise me, and I think that's more disturbing than anything that it didn't surprise me. But like you said, said that group that responded, that's not who you want to mentor your child anyway. It's going to take someone with better mental fortitude and respect for themselves to mentor the children of today
Darrain …
@TheBriefOne · 4:48
Repeat that one more time in the most ruthless way possible. Most Negroes decided to remain broke and unskilled, unworthy of actually being able to sit in any place of position and ensure that the culture and the proper skill and repertoire required to maintain a way of life is established. Even now, I'm looking at the Vander Holyfield workout at 58 because I'm in that type of mood. September 8, 2021 Fight Hub TV shots out the fight hub TV they'd be keeping it real
Darrain …
@TheBriefOne · 3:49
If you look at the age of those men and their expertise, why is it by now you can actually come up and do something? Why is it by now that you think your commentary matters when you don't have anything in your hands? You say matters. Doesn't matter at all. It doesn't. There's one thing I learned in the boxing gym. My g. I don't care what you say you do or your complaints as to why you can't help nobody