Now, of course, there's always this ongoing debate on whether a woman should pursue or whether a man should pursue, and it's man's instinct to pursue, and women should not be the ones making the moves, that they should wait for the man to lead and all these things. But it sounds like Simone saw what she wanted. She went after it and she got it. And so Jonathan telling the story, I mean, he was just given the facts of how things came together
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 4:19
And it's because they're looking through the lens of tradition where the guy goes on the hunt, where the guys seek out the woman, and they'll quote to you that he who finds a wife finds a good thing or whatever. So a woman pursuing a man, to many women, it just don't look right. This is not my own opinion. This is just from what I've been reading and hearing
Shawna Kearsley
@OnAcornBay · 3:00
I mean, really, that schedule alone and her earning power and her assets would lead me to believe that she is an independent woman who would have a hard time meeting someone that can keep up with her and fit into her schedule and much less someone who's on the same strive of excellence, that athleticy thing. And he's a black man and all that business. And it looked to me as though she made a plan and executed that plan when it came to catching her guy
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 2:14
If I have a man that's going to making those kinds of efforts to get to know me, then I would say that I am a catch. Right. And so I don't have a problem with that. I know a lot of women are triggered by the fact that he said he was the catch and all of that. Oh, he shouldn't have said all that. He should have covered her and not said anything like that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:38
Hey, Erica, thank you so much for your response. I love how you said how you and your husband weren't interested in a relationship when y'all first met, that that wasn't the forefront, at the forefront of what you both were desiring in that moment. And I love that because I think that movies and television sell us on the idea that when you meet the one you're meant to be with, it's just going to be fireworks. It's just going to be like, boom
javon johnson
@motoblanco · 2:36
I mean, look, I guess over time, he got to know her better, and he saw the inner beauty inside of her in addition to her external looks. My experience in life, I've heard a lot of women say, look, I met this guy. And, yeah, I was minding my own business. I wasn't interested in him
Devski Grene’
@Devski_Grene · 4:56
And he said that I'm going to always see us men as the prize. Now, my perspective is that intrinsically men are the prize. I'm a biblical person, so men are the descendants of Adam, the original man. And God created man first. And he created man Adam to name all the birds and the bees and the creeping things upon the earth, land which the Lord had made. And at a certain point, God said, it is not good for man to be alone
Robert Jenkins
@Guruball1 · 4:05
I know there's been many of women who proposed to men, got on their knee, put a ring on his finger. Why? Because sometimes, and I'm speaking for me, I can't speak for all men, but sometimes I need a little push at times. Sometimes a woman has come up to me because the last relationship I was in, she was like, listen, I gave you every hint in the world, and you didn't seem to pick up on it
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:59
And so, yeah, men are treading lightly. So, sisters, if you see somebody and he's expressing a little bit of interest, and you got a little bit of interest, just reach out and say, hey. Because the world of feminism has pretty much changed the dating game. And if you're sitting back on a pedestal waiting for this guy to necessarily come up to you and ask for your father's hand in marriage, it's probably not going to happen
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:51
Hey, Javon, thank you so much for your response, and I apologize for my very late response to this, but you're right. You know, I think that in the dating culture, we try to complicate things so much. And I have to blame some of these dating coaches for that because they make dating so complicated, and I guess they have to
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:35
She didn't care that the pivot didn't invite her to be a guest. They invited her husband. And I'm going to be right over here supporting him as his help me. And that's that. I don't really care that the show is not about, you know, those men, I ain't gonna lie, they try to be messy, talking about, oh, so you didn't want Simone? He ain't say nothing about that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:32
What she did reminded me of dating back in the 90s when it was really just that simple. You like somebody, you let them know. That was it. We're living in a society today that's telling you, as a woman, you should not approach a man. If you do, then you're not letting him lead. And if you start out that way, you're going to keep having to lead him and all this stuff
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:08
They're talking about football. She ain't a football player. So what? I thought that everything went well, but you're right. Feminism has killed dating for a lot of women and men. So thank you so much. This was great
Robert Jenkins
@Guruball1 · 4:14
So by the time you're in your teens and your twenty s and you're going out and you're dating and you're asking girls on the train, oh, hello. How are you doing today? You look very pretty. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then she either will give you the rhythm or she won't. But you learn how to move on. You don't take it personally. You just like, look, okay, she's gone