You. So a lot of the posts that I may make on here may be concerning relationship issues or family issues. I'm newly divorced and newly married. The woman that I'm married to now, not the other woman or flink, but somebody who I met genuinely and organically, and we just kind of clicked. A lot of similarities, a lot of things in common, and things flow naturally
Tim Ereneta
@Tim · 1:17
I've been using audio apps like swell, different variations of them for about six years now and I was using them as audio journals and I do find they are helpful whether or not anyone ever responds and usually people do. So I'll just say keep at it, stick with it and I really hope you find some good conversation partners that can hear your story and acknowledge what you're going through. I do want to acknowledge what you're going through
dee felton
@MrDee · 0:32
Hey Tim, thanks so much for your reply. Thanks for listening. Thanks for your feedback and your well wishes. You're my first reply or response here on swell, so I appreciate that. Best of luck to you and all the things that you're looking to accomplish or set out to do in this new year of 2024. Hope you have a great one. Bye
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:47
And it is the weaker side of society that developed the tagline, happy wife, happy life. How in the world can you have a happy wife, happy life, when the divine order is God, man, woman, child? A happy man is God's plan. That's the tagline. A happy man is God's plan. So you are vetting this woman, and this woman is supposed to be showing up, earning her place in your life
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:33
Then there's going to be, which will be phase two, some resistance, because they're going to be like, he acting all different and brand new. We're going to test to see if he's going to really hold true to this new thing. And then once they test phase three and see that, okay, no, this is the new way. Dad is in control. He is moving confidently in his masculinity. And we got to fall in line. And then, guess what?
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:50
And it's not about coming up with a one two three solution or a plan. It's like, let's just get some stuff off our chest. Let's just talk about it. I will say to you, I am aware I'm a woman, but I'm very much aware of what men go through in marriages when they are married to a terrible person. Women love to cry and say, this happened to us, and it does happen. But I have three brothers
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 3:08
And sometimes we think we're okay when we jump into another long term relationship, but then things come up. Like you said, you have children with your ex wife, so those are constant reminders of something that didn't go right or something that failed. And you're human. It's okay to feel that way again. I've never been through a divorce, but I'm speaking as someone who was a child who watched her parents go through a separation and divorce, and it's not easy
dee felton
@MrDee · 5:00
And yeah, maybe those were some of the factors in the relationship, but it was paying the bill that provided our lifestyle. Now fast forward to being divorced, having nobody that I can reach out to, nobody I can be close to, and I can't go home. Otherwise, I lose custody of my children, where it gets shrink down to visitation. It was just in a bad state. Lost my home, end up losing that job
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:43
So, honey, I have lived, and I say that with all due respect. And when I got to my second marriage, I had to look long and hard in the mirror, and it was very uncomfortable. I feel all of the things that you are thinking and feeling. To look at myself in the mirror and to say, damn, you are the common denominator in this situation. So where did you err? What happened?
dee felton
@MrDee · 4:50
His mom got to create the narrative who I was, and we're just now unraveling that as he's recently turned 18. We've always had great communication, and our communication is even more intense now as he is preparing himself for adulthood. So I've experienced that not having those conversations being released in an appropriate time as kids getting older, because they're going to want to know. I mean, even as an adult myself, I questioned my mom about my dad and their divorce
dee felton
@MrDee · 3:43
I may be venting about other things in the future, but today and this thread is just me open about this divorce and getting some different feedback and opinions and different stories. Again, Angie, appreciate
dee felton
@MrDee · 2:30
But at the same time, we're, our acts share our emotions and when we do it, it seems to be a problem. And once a man realizes that, he clams up for a very long time. One of the reasons I probably haven't clammed up like that is because I'm an expressive person. And instead of me just going and doing something crazy, I express myself in art. I express myself in music and lyrics and words. And I found this space swell
dee felton
@MrDee · 4:44
We're still empathetic for her. We still tiptoe around and don't say certain things. Right. Men don't get that same courtesy. Get over it. You're a man. Man up, man tell us to man up, and women tell us to man up. Right. My thing is me personally just wanting the space to vent. I want somebody to understand what I went through, and there are other men who have gone through what I've gone through. Hell, mine is crazy