And I sat down and just barely started talking to her. And this guy comes, I guess he came out of the bathroom that comes and sits down at the table and he's sitting there talking. And she introduces him, you know, told me his name and everything and said that he's in from out of town. And I thought, oh, so my friend is married. This is not her husband. What the hell's going on?
And asking the question, is the story that I have in front of me right now the story that I have in my head right now actually true? And. And where did that story come from? You know, in your case, you know, it. You know, the circumstances turned out to be much more innocent than what could have been there, so that was good. But I. But
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:55
Because at that point, the second marriage, it was a blended family situation that I remember saying, I don't really want to do that. I just want to keep things how they were before we moved in together. And also at that time, I was starting to see some red flags that I was not comfortable or confident enough to speak up, to. Listen to my past swells. You'll get the whole thing anyway
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 2:28
And so therefore, it's good to not assume. It's good to just ask questions so that we don't make an ass out of ourselves or the other person. So I just wanted to add that, that funny tip as well at the end. So, yes, you learned something new. However, when you were telling that story out, I didn't guess the brother because I believe in non traditional relationships and I believe in ethical non monogamy
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 1:33
Hey, Rich, I think I know exactly what you're saying. That sometimes it's like a selfdefeating behavior that we have in jumping to conclusions. And there are times that we need to just second guess ourselves and ask ourselves, why would we think that? Why? What? What has happened in the past that would. Like, for example, with my story? Why would I even let it cross my mind that my friend would be cheating on her husband?
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 2:04
I didn't want to run the risk of, you know, having my kids involved with somebody that I had bad taste with. But if I had, I mean, not to say that I would marry somebody that was a bad person and have him live next door, but I had never thought of the concept of marrying somebody and still having, you know, my own space. I think that would be awesome. Oh, my gosh, that would be awesome