And by the time they do, the walls come tumbling in on them and their parents are working. Their parents are working two and three jobs, trying to make ends meet so they can feed their kids. Their parents are high stressed because of the impact of working these jobs and trying to please all their bosses. And the kids come to the parents with an issue or something that's bothering them
Kitha Larie
@chitchatwithkk · 4:49
And so it was a lot. But having my own kids today, I do push my kids, and I push my work kids. You know, I was just talking today, and I had a state worker reach out to me, and she said, well, you know, I was hoping that the foster care will be more gentle now, mind you, she put a little girl in a home
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:35
And she said, and when you do this, what happens is you will have a healthy relationship with your child, one where you're not throwing up in their face all of the things that you've done for them, all of the sacrifices you've made for them in a manner where it lands for them as, wait a minute. I didn't ask to be here. I didn't ask you to put anything on hold
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 3:17
And so we're able to respect each other's, like, physical capacity, mental capacity, spiritual capacity as humans versus from this space of, well, you owe me because you're my mother, or you owe me because you're my son. And I swear by that advice. And when I meet other new moms, I share this thing with them, because I do. It becomes almost similar to a broken record. When I hear so many women, I can't speak for men
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:35
And so I'm glad that, you know, back then, we didn't have to worry about none of that stuff because of social media. You see rising rates of anxiety and depression in our teens because everything is about how you present yourself. Everything's about image. Everything's about how you look
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 1:47
I really like this, Jl. And, you know, the words that you've said about putting yourself first? I'm glad you're spreading those to other women, because I was not raised that way. And now, looking back on it, I'm seeing all the flaws that I did, but I can't do anything about it now. Right? My daughter just left a week ago Sunday, and my son is already off with, you know, doing his own thing
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 3:03
You've got school to look forward to. You know, you've got to focus on school. You're not even in a relationship right now. You know, you're too young to worry about relationships. Don't even worry about being gay right now. And I think that what I was seeing with that was, you know, gays, just about who you're sexually attracted to. I wasn't looking at it as it's a way of life
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 2:59
And she has stated that on multiple occasions. And because for her, it's, well, look at where you are now. So I obviously did things right, so get off your soapbox, whatever. And it's more than that. It's bigger than that
MJ Brewer
@Mommas_Jungle · 0:45
Thank you so much for those kind words. I really appreciate that. I have apologized profusely, which may be the problem. I think his fiance eats that up. But at this point, I think that whatever damage I have done is done, and there's no way even to, to apologize for the way that I've behaved with him. I think that door is closed for now. But thank you so much because I still have my daughter and I still need to make amends with her