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Greg Dickson
@ElasticBDย ยทย 3:42

Conversational leadership, listen by asking open ended, probing questions that make people think

So obviously that's the song what the World Needs Now is Love, sweet love. I think what the world needs now is listening. Sweet listening. The greatest way they're that we can learn to listen is to shut up. You can't be listening while you're talking

Breathe, Pause, Reflect and then Respond, resist the urge to say what first comes to your mind #lifeorigami #dialogue #listening #learningcurve

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@SeekingPlumb

A question.

I may be wrong, but I don't think you mentioned it here, but elsewhere you mentioned when discussing conversational leadership that this was something that you did with friends and family as well as with an employer or employee type of situation. My question is, do you see the leadership part of that label applied to every situation? So is it leadership that's happening between two friends or two family members, two colleagues
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Greg Dickson
@ElasticBDย ยทย 3:49

Yes we can provide thought leadership anywhere with anyone @SeekingPlumb

So therefore, the examination and understanding of those I've found myself personally, it's very transformative to examine, challenge and question the things that I think, the things that I say I believe because quite often I find they are opinions and adopted and assimilated from experiences in a conversation I've had with other people in my life and in the past. And sometimes some of those opinions are formed based upon a point of view that no longer is valid in my life
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Greg Dickson
@ElasticBDย ยทย 2:11

A few examples @SeekingPlumb

That's a way that we can lead through. By example, with our question, we lead with a question, and then we listen, and then we're going to get far more information asking an open ended question like that. So do you have a good day? It kind of telegraphs when we ask those types of questions, it telegraphs that we want an answer. What answer we want
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@SeekingPlumb

Another question. @LifeOrigami

Your examples make complete sense. I'm on the same page with you. I do have another question, though. Do you think that going into a conversation with the perception of leading has any sort of negative consequences on the conversation itself or the dynamic with the other individual
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Greg Dickson
@ElasticBDย ยทย 4:02

It depends on your intentions

You know, perhaps it could be called seeking to understand leadership. It's really about understanding other people. Your question, I think kind of hints at our retailer graphing that we're trying to manipulate our course or redirect a conversation without integrity, which would be manipulation. But it all comes down to your intentions. What is your intention? If your intention is to seek to understand?
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Greg Dickson
@ElasticBDย ยทย 4:55

Hereโ€™s a bunch of tips and ideas, letโ€™s continue, I appreciate your questio

You are actually probably breaking trust and rapport because life is moving so quickly and so dynamically in people's lives, their situations are constantly changing. And with remote working, remote relationships, remote learning situations. We need to come into a conversation with a certain level of empathy, level of understanding of if you live in Canada. You've heard this. We're all in this together. Yeah. Right. In the beginning of the potemic. That was a good thing
@SeekingPlumb

In a hierarchy, can there be honest sharing/real connection? @LifeOrigami

And it is a form of manipulation whether we want to get into the topic of forms of manipulation, is it good or is it bad, et cetera. I think that's another topic altogether. You also made another good point. That intention is a key component to this. Even if this is not the exact scenario. I think by the very nature of the words conversational leadership, it immediately creates a separation by implication
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Greg Dickson
@ElasticBDย ยทย 4:55

We are all attempting to lead/control conversations

The moment you stop talking, they just jump right in and make their counterpoint. They're so busy holding on to their point of view that they have stopped listening to you. And I think that's because of bias, it's a normal human condition. We all have a biased point of view based on our life experiences. All we're trying to do conversational leadership listen by asking open up, have heartfelt conversations with people that are collaborative, expansive. They're gentle conversations, non manipulative
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Greg Dickson
@ElasticBDย ยทย 4:36

Iโ€™m trying to help myself & others connect through dialogue

It seems to me my observation is that and I think you make a valid observation. Leadership is a charge, my conclusion, my judgment that leadership is a charged word and leadership is something we all want and we all struggle with and we all are being led by somebody in our work life, and we sometimes struggle with that
@SeekingPlumb

From the perspective of the follower... @LifeOrigami

I'm trying to see both sides of it, but I tend to be on the other end of it the employee or the follower. And so when I hear you say that you think the word leadership is a charged word that sometimes we struggle with following, following, or being led. Then from the perspective of the follower, I'm wondering why there is emphasis on using the word leadership
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Greg Dickson
@ElasticBDย ยทย 3:22

I donโ€™t know that I have the answersโ€ฆ Just my own experience

And it's at the root of a lot of the problems we have with capitalism and the collapse of capitalism. The collapse we're seeing of democracy, the collapse we're witnessing of our society's ability. Canadian government says we're in this together. That was nice at the beginning, but the narrative has changed when we have leaders that don't communicate that make decisions that are the opposite of what is needed. And so why is leadership needed in the case of a follower?
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Dewuan .
@FryedOreoย ยทย 4:46

I donโ€™t want people to "shut up", I want to hear what they have to say. ๐Ÿค”

So maybe the change in the dialogue can go a long way because leadership to me, when I hear leadership, especially online, it sounds to me like the guru talk and all that sort of stuff and the Vaynerchuks and the Tony Robbins and that sort of thing. And that's where you're going. That's cool. But it sounds very old fashioned to me. Leadership. That word leadership sounds like a seminar thing, so some people can be reactive towards that
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Greg Dickson
@ElasticBDย ยทย 1:52

@Wuandurful

But to actually hear people feel the energy, understand and to be empathetic to what they're experiencing, what they're expressing. I think that's a very rich field, and that's where I want to meet people here on Swell and in life. Rumi said between right doing and wrong doing, there is a field. I'll meet you there and that's sort of that energy around seek to understand. And I love the things that you had to say
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Greg Dickson
@ElasticBDย ยทย 5:00

@MerelyHuman thank you 4 ur contribution Curious Conversations are powerful

It's mind bending. The transformational potential is truly remarkable. I've seen this. I've trained, taught this mnemonic this methodology for decades. And when you really get it, when you can learn how to suspend your agenda, going into a conversation and be curious. And maybe it's having curious conversations. Maybe we change it from conversational leadership to curious conversations
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phil spade
@Philย ยทย 2:14
And I think it takes time for people to understand exactly what that means. When listening in a business situation, it takes effort, and it really takes practice. It really does. And that's something that before I was getting my license, my driver's Ed teacher, my driver's Ed teacher. He's got a classroom full of kids that are ready to go out and finally get their license. It was the last class. He stopped everybody
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Greg Dickson
@ElasticBDย ยทย 1:15

@Phil listening is like seeing with our ears

When we're listening, it's like we're seeing through our ears because there's this transference, because we go from when we choose to listen and to be open, we let go of the tension. We let go of our need to perform. We let go of our need to make a point, to try to impose our will, our thoughts upon another human being
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Greg Dickson
@ElasticBDย ยทย 4:25

Feel what we hear @merelyhuman https://s.swell.life/SSIsx8bRN7OwU88

So to the degree that we are able to express ourselves extemporaneously at will with anybody anywhere, will have a significant net positive effect on the quality of our life, the quality of our relationships. And ultimately, it's a form of I hate to say it leadership because it will trickle out. I'll rephrase that it will ripple out as we become more articulate and as we communicate more often spend time talking to one another, whether in this time shifted environment or over the telephone or in person
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D Pardes
@GivingVoiceย ยทย 1:14

Link to Crucial Conversations https://s.swell.life/SSJ0A2nGeHKt6eW

I can't believe I missed this conversation. There's such a zeitgeist because I just did a session today on the silence between words and the power of that. I love this conversation. I love the responses, and I think leadership has so much weight and energy around the world. And when we use the word in conjunction with conversation, I think it's a real it kind of reframes everything
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