It is a cheater always a cheater? I mean we often hear people say that a lot oh, if he cheated he's always going to be a cheater cheater. If she cheated she's always going to be unfaithful. But is that really true? I mean they say a leper can't change the spots, right? But does that apply to people? In my opinion believe it depends on the person
Sunil Nagar
@skrnagar · 0:37
You? Yeah, I think so. Cheater is always cheater. But sometime what happened for any situation someone will convert. So he's writing not as a cheater, but for day passed or time passed or some months or year passed again something if he get chance to cheat. And so he will choose the cheat. So oral cheater is always cheater
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:12
You're. Thank you for your reply. I stand to agree with you that a cheater can always be a cheater only if their perspective or they're repentful. If they're repentful, they're sorry. This really messed it up for them. They've learned their lesson. Then I believe that they may not always be a cheater cheater, but I believe the desire to cheat may be there, but they have to act on it
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 0:42
And thanks for being honest indicating that at one time you were a cheater. But that doesn't necessarily mean that you are one now. So I appreciated it. Thank you, sir
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 4:34
Did they have a father who had affairs? Did they have a mother who had affairs? Did the people in their family just sleep around with folks all the time? What kind of family upbringing did they have? Did they come from a family where cheating was accepted as normal behavior and so they didn't know that it was wrong? Is there something going on in their present relationship is there something missing in the present relationship that they are receiving from this other person?
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 4:55
And they weren't intending on it to turn sexual, but this person, they had started confiding in this person and talking to this person. It could be just somebody at work, not even nobody. They went out and looked for just a coworker. How's your day? Oh, good. And then it pop off from there. And then before you know it, now they've slept with this person
Tori Closson
@soleilnoelle · 3:49
Now, there's many different elements to this because in this particular situation, for my ex husband, that had nothing to do with what I was bringing, what I was not bringing, that had everything to do with him and his own development and his own process through life. And because I feel like a cheater is not always a cheater. Error can change. I did have faith, and I still feel that way
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:43
They don't know how a relationship should really work. Like relationships are true work. Communication is key, sex is key, money is key. All kinds of things are key in family relationships. And some people are just lacking that part because they never been taught that. So does that give the other person the right to cheat on them because that other person didn't know? But like you said, if you got to keep on telling them, you feel like that's different?
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 0:52
All right. Thank you so much for your reply. I agree with you. It depends on the person. At first, my thought process was, yeah, everyone that's a cheater is a cheater. Because my ex husband oh, my God, he was prolific at cheating. Like, he could cheat at the drop of a hat. And it wasn't because I did anything wrong. It was just because that's who he was. That's how he was built
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 5:00
You'll think that's normal. You'll think that's normal behavior, right? If you grew up in a household where you hear people, where your daddy then took you to see other women while your mama was at work, if you grow up in a home and you got a whole bunch of uncles, you got a whole bunch of uncles, okay?
Andrea Piggue
@Andrea_Speaks · 3:47
They whole marriage, both of them, the husband and the wife, both of them cheat the whole marriage. And they won't divorce each other because he likes the lifestyle that she provides. And she don't want to be divorced. She don't want to be a woman who people can say she's been divorced twice. So she'd rather stay and cheat, and he'd rather stay and cheat
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:25
But I'm learning that the dysfunction that I saw is not what's for me, so that I can do something about it. So, yes. Thank you so much. You didn't tickle me again
