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Kashish Longiany
@Kashishlongiany · 0:22

In conversation with Mental health advocate- Ridhii Sachdeva on relationships

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Happy Mondays. Well, today I'd like to introduce you all to a mental health advocate and a writer, Riddhi Sachdeva. She's a podcaster, and the name of a podcast is The Happy Hour. So we're getting into a conversation with her about relationships. Welcome, Ridi. It's a pleasure to have you here

#sayitonswell #love #relationships #mattersofheart

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@Ridhiisachdeva
ridhi sachdeva
@Ridhiisachdeva · 0:13
Thank you so much. It is so great to be here. I was just checking out this application. It is so beautifully arranged. Everything is so beautiful. Thank you so much for inviting me
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@Ridhiisachdeva
ridhi sachdeva
@Ridhiisachdeva · 0:03
It is swell. Indeed
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@Kashishlongiany
Kashish Longiany
@Kashishlongiany · 0:21

@Ridhiisachdeva

We are very happy to have you here at the Onswell and I am personally very excited because relationships is my favorite topic to discuss. So let's get started with the conversation. So my first question for you is what factors contributes the most in making a relationship successful
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@Ridhiisachdeva
ridhi sachdeva
@Ridhiisachdeva · 1:20
Is what factors contribute in making a relationship successful. Okay. So what I have made for myself is three C's. Okay. We will have seen a year. So these. These are first is for communication. Communicating. Conveying all your needs, want and issues. Whatever you have in a form. I feel this instead of I know you did this conveying I wish you could do this for me or if you did this I would feel more better those days. Then the second one is compassion
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@Kashishlongiany
Kashish Longiany
@Kashishlongiany · 0:24

@Ridhiisachdeva

Wow. I couldn't agree more to you when you say we need three C's to make a relationships successful communication, compassion and contribution. This literally took my heart. So moving on to the next next question. What are the deal breakers in a relationship? When does one gets to know it's not a healthy relationship anymore
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@Ridhiisachdeva
ridhi sachdeva
@Ridhiisachdeva · 1:15
Yes, everything is mixed. Yes. Habits are mixed. Yes. Ways of living, ways of walking, speaking, everything is mixed. And that is not a problem. That is not about individuality partners is healthy mixing. If you lose your individuality, how you are individually, that goes to an unhealthy relationship
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@Kashishlongiany
Kashish Longiany
@Kashishlongiany · 0:29

@Ridhiisachdeva

Losing yourself in the name of love and losing your identity and individuality forgetting about your own self and your own happiness for your partner is really unhealthy. And I feel that too. And I totally agree to you when you say that. So moving on to the next question for you, which is how can one overcome the feeling of being unworthy of love after a breakup
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@Ridhiisachdeva
ridhi sachdeva
@Ridhiisachdeva · 1:34
Moving on is very difficult and I so understand that. So for that and removing the feeling of being unworthy, ask yourself this question. What was the thing that made you feel feel that you are worthy of love and everything during that relationship? Now, if you have the answer, do something similar for yourself. The thing that made you feel that made you feel that you are worthy. Do it for yourself because you deserve that. And I know it is not so easy
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@Ridhiisachdeva
ridhi sachdeva
@Ridhiisachdeva · 0:38
Pick a pen and a paper or if you want to take notes or you want to take a laptop as per your convenience and make two sides like two sides of differentiation So on one hand right before and on the other side right after write how was your life before and after? And try to picture it and then if it is being difficult, then, then note down that difference and try to cover it by yourself because you can do that all the best
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@Kashishlongiany
Kashish Longiany
@Kashishlongiany · 0:37

@Ridhiisachdeva

I personally feel you should never stay friends with your ex if you really need to move on in life. And it's okay to feel unworthy sometimes because you're in a position where you're processing the fact that something beautiful really, it's beautiful that you thought might last long, sustained. And it's okay if you need help, if you want to reach out to a therapist, a friend, or a counselor. So I totally agree to you. So moving on to the next first question
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@Ridhiisachdeva
ridhi sachdeva
@Ridhiisachdeva · 0:58
Actually the answer to this question is very easy. That how do you feel in the relationship and how does the other one feel for you? What is your priority? Do you want everything in return, what you are doing for them or not and in which quantity, which amount? So that affects a lot. The only question you need to ask is how do you feel and how does the other person feel for you?
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@Kashishlongiany
Kashish Longiany
@Kashishlongiany · 0:59

@Ridhiisachdeva

If the answer is or no that there is no growth, then I know probably it's time for me to leave and move ahead in life. But that's my point of view and I totally feel your point of view is absolutely correct. So moving on to our last question. Do you think there are any physical insecurities or environmental insecurities in a relationship and how should one overcome that
@Ridhiisachdeva
ridhi sachdeva
@Ridhiisachdeva · 1:29
How like, what are the insecurities? What do you feel? When do you think that you started feeling this? Where did you start feeling this? What point that was in your life? Where is the point in your life and how can you cover it up? Covering does not mean. Covering means how can you overcome it? And there are no hard and fast rules for this. I believe in these cases, if you already know that, what insecure qualities do you have?
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@Kashishlongiany
Kashish Longiany
@Kashishlongiany · 0:36

@Ridhiisachdeva

Thank you so much Ridhi for giving us your time and having this conversation with us. I really enjoyed this conversation with you. A very big thank you to you from the whole team of Swell. And I feel like you said it right when you say that we all are insecure in our own ways and we all have our fair share of insecurities in life, especially about the things we love
@Ridhiisachdeva
ridhi sachdeva
@Ridhiisachdeva · 0:05
Of course, honey. Thank you so much for having me here. Take care
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